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writes:Ok so I've been seeing this guy,our first date was about a month ago. Everything is GREAT when we are together. He opens doors,always pays,and we get along very well with each other. Always good conversation and we can joke around with each other and have a good laugh. I feel very open and comfortable around him and enjoy his personality. We are sexually active with one another,and he's always very attentive and never selfish. Very passionate and tender with me,and always up for a cuddle. Never gives any weird signals or anything when we are in each others company,in fact everything feels perfect when we are around each other. However....when we aren't together,it's as if he forgets about me. Before our first date,he would text me all the time,sometimes numerous times in a day just for no reason. Now that has all come to a halt and I'm very confused. We haven't really gotten into phone chatting too much either,although we do when there is a need to,such as to discuss plans and such. When I contact him first,he has never ignored me. But sometimes seems not really into it,likes he's distracted or bored.I got a little fed up and told him I felt like he was playig games and I wasn't going to keep wasting my time on this. He said that he wasn't playing games and told me please don't be like that. I let it go,but explained how I hate games and being lead on and that if he's doing that then he needs to just tell me. He says he is a straightforward person,but it's seeming doubtful to me. If he's interested then why hardly any communication in between when we are together? I have voiced my concern twice about it,and he tells me he hasn't lost interest. But what am I supposed to think then when he's not initiating like he once did? I've given him the chance to tell me if something has changed,and I got nothing out of him. Am I overreacting? Should I just back off and not initiate contact with him and see what he does?
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (18 December 2011):
 His behavior does sound very odd.
However he may be into you but he may have other things on his mind (like stress etc) which might prevent that close contact.
Have you asked if anything is troubling him?
He has said he is not playing games so only you know if he can be trusted by his words although actions too say alot.
Talk to him again and ask for a clear reason why he does not maintain contact as much as before. Tell him its driving a wedge between you, see if he will compromise. If not let him go.
Goodluck!
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reader, Laputa  +, writes (17 December 2011):
sorry dear. This dude got what he wanted. He doesnt have to hunt for you anymore. It sounds like he is with you for convenience. 1month is too short to be intimate. Sorry, but i don see a balanced relationship here.
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