A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have finally plucked up the courage to leave my 3 year old relationship due to his dating site obsession. I have had lies,been blamed,had it turned round on me,been called neurotic and been made to feel bad for not trusting him. Albeit,he still carried on. It has been a full two months and I wont be going back this time. I now feel inferior and keep thinking I`m never going to be special or important to any fella. I need to know how to smile again,laugh with people etc. I still love him but will not go back to it. Can anyone suggest anything. (Ps. As I was writing this yet another text off him calling me a liar for saying I loved him and asking me who I have left him for). I am wondering if he`s got mental problems.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2011): Narcisistic personalities are amongst the hardest patients for psychiatrists to treat, for the simple reason that their disorder stems from an unshakable belief that they can do no wrong. Their belief is different to everyone else....
- Above being questioned for their actions.
- Belief that anyone who strikes back at them is abusive.
- Failing to recognize other people’s emotions and feelings
- Expecting others to go along with your ideas and plans
- Believe who they have wronged deserve it.
- A constant need for attention, compliments and admiration;
- Being jealous of others.
- Believing that others are jealous.
- Trouble keeping healthy relationships.
- Having a fragile self-esteem and you will never measure up
to their expectation.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2011): He is a date site addict. Its indictating a narcissistic disorder. You have rejected his further abuse and he doesnt get it. The deeper you go the more confusing it will become. A lot of questions but never an understandable answer. Change your number and leave him to his date sites. Its no longer your problem. Close your thoughts about it if you want to get on with your life.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2011): Easy answer. Just think about how its all in the past and a more secure future is ahead of you. It should bring a smile to your face. He was so useless at attracting women to cheat on you with, that he had to stoop to dating sites. It`s enough to make any body laugh. Enjoy the rest of your life.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2011): When something threatens to break a relationship, yet it continues, then what does it tell you? It is an addiction just like gambling, except the risk is not money, its his relationship. Dont be fooled, he will have known what he was risking. I would like to bet he is still doing it now. Do not answer to anything he says or throws out about you. He knows why you left.
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male
reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2011): I had this crap with an ex and her internet dating life spanned 6 YEARS. Exactly the same reaction too. Forget trying to work it out, just stay away. He will still be on them now, I assure you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2011): He is addicted to Internet, Date Sites, Sex (why else be online on date sites?) and uses people to make him feel better. He's NOT Healthy.
Your gut instincts tell you this is so.
Now, black list him from your phone. Makes it easier to get over him. Out of site, out of mind and heart, with time.
Do NOT respond to any texts.
Who You Are Dealing With:
Narcissists are self-absorbed and tend to be highly charming. They have a constant need for admiration. They view all events in terms of how the events impact them and them alone. They are master manipulators and feel an "emotional high" with each new conquest. Their behavior is often impulsive which can appear exciting. These individuals lack compassion unless it helps them achieve their goals. They are unwilling to see or consider anything from another person's viewpoint. They will continue the emotional control with a target until the relationship becomes too burdensome. They utilize no moral boundaries in their pursuit of admiration and physical activity from the opposite sex; frequently offering marriage, promises, baptism, children, etc.
http://able2know.org/topic/101932-1
The Best thing you can do is heal and recover from this emotionally abusive relationship and Get Strong, Get Wise, Get Healthier and with it you will be Happier make Happy, Healthy choices.
You did GREAT By The Way! Congrats! :D
*hugs*
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2011): All in good time. I am proud of you for taking a stand and sticking to it. It will get better believe me. Someone will come along when you least expect it and your ex will still be doing his dating sites. Change your number and no contact.
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