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writes:Dear Cupid... First, I would like to say that I'm a really shy guy and have never gotten into a relationship before. I've met a sweet girl through facebook and we are both in the same fanclub of our favourtie singer. Around 8 mths ago, we met each other when we attended an autograph session of our idol. Since then, we started talking to each other on facebook and she was very enthusiastic in our conversations. I started to like her as time goes by. Even my friends suspected we like each other. Just a few weeks ago, I visited her twice when she was working. That is when I felt that the problem starts. You see, she started to ignore some of my tweets or facebook messages after that. She no longers talk to me with that enthusiasm anymore. (No =) or long replies she used to give) Her tone changed alot. She would often reply with one or two words and no longers start any conversation with me. I feel really upset about this, because I want to talk to her! I would often take a peek at her tweets to her friends and I can really see the difference in tone towards me and her friends! To be honest I felt jealous of that! This has been on my mind for quite a few weeks. Everytime i think of it, I felt really down. I want to ask you why is she ignoring me and why that change of tone? Is it because I dropped too much hints that I like her during our past conversations?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (26 October 2011):
 My guess is that she liked you as a friend, but you may have came on a little to strong for her by turning up at her work. This may have made her take a step back because you may be talking to her a little to much. The only way to find out is to ask her straight out if you have done something wrong and see what she says. If she won't tell you well then the best thing for yourself is to stop trying to talk to her and move on with your life.
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reader, Batterytea  +, writes (26 October 2011):
 To be honest, yes it is quite off-putting when you're good friends with a guy and suddenly they show obvious signs that they like you when you don't feel the same way.
Actually just a while ago, I had this guy friend I've known for years. He suddenly started dropping all these super obvious hints that he liked me and I liked someone else so I was kinda uncomfortable with it, since I saw him more like a brother. I think he realized it after a few months though, because he seems to have moved on from his crush on me and now we're back to being friends.
And I think that since it seems like she doesn't like you back, you should do what my guy friend did and stop. Find another girl or something. If you really don't want to lose this friendship, try your very best to act in a friend-like way towards her again. I know it's hard. It's VERY hard. But you have to if you want to retain this friendship.
And to be honest? After the guy moved on, I felt a bit sad that he'd moved on, even though I didn't like him back. It's called the Cat String theory. Look it up :). Maybe the same will happen with your crush! ;D
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