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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi Evreyoneheres a thing 5 months ago i went on a date with this bloke anyway we had a nice timebut he ended it suddenly,Anyway we became friends so that was ok.Heres the thing hes a barman so when i go out with my friends i see him we talk and smile at eachother ,2 months ago we slept together, it was my first time, [i bet ur thinking shes 19 and it was her first time] anyway it was.Apparently hes being with loads of girls,[ thats what i heard anyway].i thought we were starting something,but no i was used,i knew what he was like so its my fault as well,Moving one 4 weeks agi i phomed him asking for my dvd bck he said he hadnt got it, that he had given it bk ages ago,He said i wouldnt keep ur dvd cause of jealosy,i was so confused and thought what?The next night i txted him saying what did u mean jealousy,and he said nothing, and delete my number and leave me alone,.I was shocked and wondering what the hell?I saw him for the 1 time lst week walking home, we live across the road to eachother u see[more confusing]he asked how i was and i said im fine, then i said well im going now and he said yeah yeah me 2,and he said good night, and then i said good night.But on friday night i was drunk and realised sat morning that i had sent him a txt saying i like u for u,i know stupid girl.But i sent him txt in the mrning saying sori for txting u lst nite bit drunk,Anyway lst nite i went in the pub and he looked at me but said nothing, so i got the hint ok he doesnt like me no more.But when i was walking home i turned round and he was outise the pub door smoking and looking at me go, when i turned round he went in.so any advice is he scared to like me or he cnt like meplis anyonesori it was longxxxx
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reader, sappygirl  +, writes (21 September 2008):
 He is young and acting like a typical immature guy.
He slept with you and now the challenge is over for him.
Guys this age love to play the game. They want to get what they can't have and when they get it, it's too easy so they don't want it anymore.
Because you lost your virginity to him, you are feeling vunerable. Like he owes it to you treat you better because he took something very special and precious to you.
However,he doesn't know that, and even if he did, I don't know if he would be the kind of guy to appreciate it.
The best thing to do is leave him alone.
Stop texting, stop calling. basically ignore him and act like you could care less about him. This will get his attention. He will wonder what happenend and he might call you and he might not. If he does, tell him a matter of factly without any emotions or guilt that HE TOOK YOUR VIRGINITY AWAY and that was why you were acting needy and clingly. You thought that there would be a relationship that would develop, but realize now that you are not worth it.
This will make him think about what he did and how he hurt you. But you must act cool and noncholant.
Just learn from your mistake. If you give up sex too fast, guys do lose respect and become distant. Take your time to get to know him first. good luck
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