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writes:Hello, I have only been in my school for a month and there is a boy who has caught my attention. But I have no idea of how to know if he likes me and my friends aren't the greatest help, either way here is what has happen.1. I'll catch him staring at me and even my friend has caught him staring2. He has these on and off days were he is really open and fun then he is really mad and upset and will distance himself from everyone except a select few (I'm not one of them) 3. One day he is hugging me for no reason, fixing my hair starting the conversation with me and one time it even appeared like he was purposely looking for me.Then another day he can't really be bothered he will talk to me if I start the conversation but that it and he will keep it short.One day by coincidence he was at my bus stop on his way to school, I never saw him there before and he is new to my school this year but he talked to me the whole way, waiting for me to light my cigarette then walked with me the 3 blocks to school when he could of just walked ahead ( I walk really slow he walks really fast) 4. But today he was flirting with other girls sometimes blankly in front of me sometimes not yet through out the day he was staring at me and not like some odd way but like I guess the way I stare at him. But my friend over heard him say to some girl " why you waiting for some man when the right guy is standing right in front of you"Basically all I'm asking is-1.what type of guy is he? 2.could he even be remotely into me?3.is this just a hopeless crush? I could really use some advice I'm an 18yo F. Advice from the male perspective would be greatly appreciated. Thank you for taking the time
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for the great advice and im seriously going to try to distance myself from him and get over this little crush. Thank you I really appreciate it.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (3 October 2014):
 I'm with both eyeswiseopen and WiseOwlE.
REALLY consider quitting the smoking. I smoked for 7 years and it's a nasty habit. Not only will quitting save you money, but you will also feel and smell better.
That aside... If he telling another girl that he is the "right guy" for her, then he is OBVIOUSLY interested in HER or he is seriously OVERDOING the flirting.
Hugging you, fixing your hair, talking to you, looking at you, walk next to you to school doesn't mean he is into you. It means he likes you as a person, but not necessarily as a "I want to date you".
But a guy who have days he CAN'T be bothered to talk to you... isn't interested.
I think he KNOWS full well that YOU have a crush and he LIKED the attention you pay to him.
If you are looking for a guy to date, he isn't it.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (3 October 2014):
 My best advice to you would be to quit smoking, I wish I hadn't started as a teenager.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2014): He's friendly to you, but not into you. He's interested in another girl. He's just a flirt and he knows you're crushing on him.
If he has the nerve to tell some other girl how he feels about her; don't you think he'd be able to tell you if he wanted to be with you?
People staring at you means absolutely nothing. That is always mistaken as a person sending some kind of signal they're interested. You like him, so you study every move he makes in hopes he show signs that he likes you too.
He just strings you along. You don't want to be with a boy who flirts with other girls in-front of you, and messes with your head.
Check out other boys, and make sure to pay attention; just in-case you're ignoring boys more interested in YOU. While you're too busy crushing on a boy who is telling another girl he's the right man for her.
Learn not to attach your feelings so quickly. Wait until a boy actually asks you out a few times. Crushing is natural and normal. You have to learn not to get carried away with them.
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