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writes:Lately my boyfriend doesnt call me as frequent as he used to sometimes back and when i call him he tells me how busy he is lately. Im starting to have ideas of maybe he's not interested in me an more thuogh he still claims to love me and never break my heart.Im confused please help. This is my first relationship and i dont wonna loose it coz i love him so much. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2007): Do you really love him? Or is it just the relationship and the newness of it that you love? If he doesnt keep in touch when you want him to then let him know that you would like to hear from him more often. If he doesnt want to go along like this then ask yourself if you really want to be treat like this. If you dont like it then end the relationship and move on. You only live once and why should you feel this way.
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (9 October 2007):
You should know what he is doing and decide for yourself how valid his excuse really is. If he still calls you a couple of times a week and sees you once most weeks, you don't have a real problem.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (9 October 2007):
 Sometimes, people are busy indeed. For example, a boyfriend who takes a night course could not call you as much as he used to. But, sometimes people say they are busy as a way to avoid the unpleasant situation of telling someone else that they are not interested anymore. And, other times, people are confused as to whether they should continue with a relationship or not, and therefore they make themselves "busy" to have an excuse not to see you; in this case, it's an excuse for themselves and for you.
The key to tell one from another, I guess, is to see whether the person does find a way to spend time with you. I would suggest that you don't push the thing; stay where you are and see what he does if you don't try to call him or be with him.
And, be strong if he will leave you. Think of it this way: you were happy before he came into your life, and you can be happy again, with someone else, maybe someone better than him.
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