A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hello! I need your help. I have been chatting with him for 5 months.We live in different countries. We understand each other very well. We are like real friends. Recently he has become a manager of very big company and he rarely writes to me. We used to chat for hours, discuss different topics but now we chat for some minutes. He SOMETIMES writes me and he says he is too busy. I think he is honest and straight. He is always online ( he says he gets letters from different people and companies). i tried to behave as he does. I started to ignore him and tell him i am busy. he complained telling "I see you have no wish to speak to me".I really do not understand him. I do not know whether he is pretending or he is really busy. If he has lost interest in chatting with me and ignores me, why does he never let me forget about him texting me and entering my site every day? What should i do?
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reader, laetitia  +, writes (22 May 2010):
 First of all, if you're in different countries do you honestly think it's realistic that something will come out this relationship?
I know someone who dated someone from a different country online for 3 years, spoke everyday and visited each other 3 times. The last time, the guy went to visit her, he only discovered that she ran off with some other guy. Seriously, online is not reality. You're not convenient for each other when you live so far anyway. Eventually either him or you will find someone more suitable and more convenient and the other will get rejected.
Try to get involved with someone in your area and meet him for a coffee date early at the beginning - after 4-5 emails. If you like what you see in REALITY, then continue talking to him. If not, don't waste your time and emotions talking to someone with whom there is no feature.
I am sorry, but you gotta accept reality. Tell him that you've been thinking a lot and you realized that you made a mistake getting involved with someone so far away and that you just don't see a future for you two. Then block him and try to find someone else in your area.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (18 May 2010):
Move on. He will, and he doesn't sound too suitable to me. You don't really know too much about him. He could be a dangerous liar for all you know.
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reader, ALINA  +, writes (18 May 2010):
 the difference is 9 years
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (18 May 2010):
 If you are 16-17 and he is a manager in a real big company I think he is WAY older then you.
Could be a lot of reasons, not of them good.
I say move on, girl.
Find someone who wants to be there for you.
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