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writes:Dear lovely aunts. I am sooo in love with a guy I have known as a class-mate/friend for 4years. Recently, I realise we are flirting a lot more..I guess because I am kinda hitting on him. By nature he is a lot more flirtatious.Now this is the issue:Last night I dreamt of him; we were making out. It was awesome! I felt so sad when I woke up and realised it was just a dream. I got him on FB today and we chatted, n wat suprised me is that he said he is aware I have a crush on him so I should feel free to tell him anything. He asked if he had kissed, or perhaps touched me in the dream. I refused to tell him any details, it felt so embarassing. Only I admitted it was one of the sweetest dreams I had. He insisted but I could not. He then told me I needed to get laid(he is aware I am a virgin)..that all that dreaming is because I am single and because I am a virgin. I laughed it off and assured him only with my married husband will I. He said I was kidding. myself.We continued chatting for over an hour..and we got back to talking about "us". He eventually told me if I find him(my guy) I will be happy. I told him I already found him, he just needs to realise. And he laughed it off. We were both in easy moods, so his reponse did not suprise me. I feel like a total fool now for sharing so much with him. My question is: Is my friend just at his flirting game when he pulls my legs with his comments or is he just politely saying no to my feelings. He has me so confused because he keeps with me despite all these. will this guy ever like me? what more can I do to get his attention in a serious way. Thanks a lot.
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reader, beautifulwoman +, writes (4 May 2012):
Thanks a lot for this response, I keep replaying it hoping that I see another line telling me he likes me..but I also realise it's just hope. We r still in contact. We met again in the caffeteria after about a week n it was funny how we were both ?shy not being able to flirt as openly. He asked me how my dreams were going..if the guy was beginning to realise his love for me. And I smiled back at him. I waited for him to take his tea before I left. The truth is I am just suprised at my feelings to this guy yet I cannot rid myself of them.I feel he treats me different..with respect and allows me to care a little for him now..put a straw in his juice, add him more sugar. I mean like couples would. I really like him..wish I had some way to charm him): Any ideas? I am sorry, I am being stubborn holding on to this dude. Thanks.
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reader, Thisiscrazy  +, writes (23 April 2012):
 Aww Hun you are in a spot.. From what you have said he is testing the waters to see how far he can go with you.. It's so hard for you because you like him so much but this is a big problem the more you show that you like him the more he will use it to get to you.. Now this will sound harsh but he sounds like he wants to get into your pants take your virginity and leave. I noticed when he said you need to get laid and your response was only with my husband he realized you were not going to be as easy as he thought .. My best advice is to try and not show your feelings towards him back right off and see how he reacts to that. If he tries to pull you back towards him over the next week don't make it easy make him chase you for the next few weeks if he dose then it shows you he is interested in you not just sex. If he dosnt try for more than a week and dosnt care then you know he was only after one thing from you.. I hope this helps
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