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writes:Ok me and my ex been off and on for about 2yrs. I just want to know is he sincere about us. Like he tells me that he knows that I'm the right one for him and no matter who he is dating or talking to whenever he think or plan out his future I'm the only one that's in it. Hw asked me to give him until April so he can get his stuff together so that we can really be together and if he doesn't have it together by then, then I can just move on. He also tells me like when he thinks about me being with someone else he gets angry. I really love him and I know his potential I just need to here a man's point of view on this like is there hope for us or is he playing game.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2012): After lots of experience dating I can tell you he is probably full of it. he is keeping you on the hook...so you will stay attached to him and he can do whatever he wants elsewhere knowing you'll be there when he wants you.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (29 September 2012):
 Honestly, I think he LOVES to string you along. That way he can do his own crap and if that doesn't work out for HIM he's got you to fall back on. So he can date others while he "gets himself" together but you can't? How is that even fair? And why do YOU think it's OK?
If you two haven't been able to maintain a relationship without being OFF and ON for 2 years, I seriously doubt he will be ready for it come April... It's not like magical perfect BF fairy-dust drops in April...
YOU think you know his potential, but you CAN'T make him live up to it.
Just my honest opinion.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (28 September 2012):
 It would be clearer as to what future you mean. Living together, getting married, or just, being closer together and feeling connected while having a sense of security. I suspect that he promised something he couldn't live up to. Didn't he? If he just straight out told you what he was up to you would have broken up with him permanently.
If a guy needs to get his stuff together, he does not need to be on and off. All he needs is your patience. He will make sure that there is no off so you won't look for anyone else. What does getting his stuff together mean? If he can get a roommate to share an apartment he can live with you, so it does sound like he is stringing you along because he feels possessive of you. When love requires an ultimatum, a deadline, a renewal of contract, you know it is the end. You can't enjoy the relationship with uncertainties so it is best to end it now. Keeping you there, not letting you find your own happiness when he can't give you happiness, is just cruel.
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reader, xgod +, writes (28 September 2012):
 He is playing you for a fool. Leave him.
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