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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:If a girl is standing somewhere focus on something, not really paying attention, and a guy reaches over her to get something and press his body against her butt. The girl took it as an accident and thought nothing of it. Then he did it again, and she felt something hard pressing in her bottom. p.s. there was plenty of room to go around her. questions?Why would a guy do that to her?When they do that to a girl do they think she is easy, (girl still has a v-card, and she does not dress slutty)?Is the girl imagining things or could it just been an accident and it was really his belt pressing into her? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2009): What he did is called Frottage. Basically he's getting sexual kicks by rubbing up against this girl. It doesn't mean he thinks she's slutty, just that she's attracive enough for him to get an erection.He might be so socially inept that he doesn't know how to tell the girl that he likes her, and is hoping that she'll noticed how aroused he is and let him know if she's interested.Or he could just be rubbing up against her because it makes him feel powerful, the way a flasher or even a rapist uses sexual contact.If it happened to me and I thought he was being deliberately sleazy i'd tell him to "Rack off"...if i thought he was just socially inept I might say quietly that there are easier ways to let a girl know he's interested in them (like just saying "Hi, I like you" or whatever). Both ought to get the guy to back off since you've shown yourself to be in control of your personal space.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2009): Yep. Harassment.
Some guys don't only aim that nonsense at girls who are looking or acting receptive to it. (Think of the jerk construction worker whistling at the woman on the street.)
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female
reader, happytochat  +, writes (16 June 2009):
Im not a guy but I think I can still give you an accurate opinion based on my experiences with guys.
It sounds like it was no accident what this guy did. Like you said, he did it twice and there was PLENTY of room for him to go around.
It doesnt mean he thinks she is easy though. Most guys will try anything on, just to see if the girl will let it happen or not. I myself, am told I have a very sweet/innocent Christian girl image about me, yet I still get so many guys hitting on me, trying to make moves etc...guys like a challenge! So dont take what this guy did as him thinking you looked easy/slutty. Because it was probably not like that at all.
If what he did made you feel uncomfortable then you should def tell him. What he did can be seen as sexual harrasment.
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