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writes: I apologise for what may seem like a silly question in advance.I made contact with a guy whom I had dated many years ago (20 years) on facebook. I had always known him as Jim and I have always kept in contact with his sister over the years. His name is actually James and he is on there as James and whenever I have messaged him he has always signed off as James. I am assuming that its because he is older now or because he is keeping me at a distance as comments made on his posts by his friends refer to his nicknames from the past.However his last two messages have been signed off as Jim.I was talking to his sister about it on the weekend who thought it was funny and our other friend who decided to add him said she has always known him as Jim like me and thats how she would refer to him. Interestingly even though she is closer to his sister, he has not replied to her message or added her as a friend yet - but everyone is different and he obviously has his reasons for it.So would that indicate he is more relaxed with me now.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 March 2012):
 Maybe he is just used to signing his name of as James and that is why he got in to the habit of doing it. I really wouldn't read to much in to it or else it will drive you crazy. Why not mention the change you noticed and see what he has to say.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2012): I'm thinking just let things unfold naturally and don't think to heavily on such things. Day by day.
Enjoy the friendship.
Sounds to me, he is just, by nature, an emotionally distant man that has his own way of order of things.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2012): That could be true, but youre also focusing on the little things too much. He obviously is choosing to keep in contact with you though, so thats a good sign, If your intent is to be friends with him again, ask him out for coffee or lunch or something
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2012): It very much sounds like your intentions are to start something up with this man you dated way back when over 20 years ago. You have initiated everything and it doesn't really matter how he signs his name in the overall context of things. The facts are he is not doing anything to try and reignite things and he's making no advances to even get to know you more. Game over.
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