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writes:My gf and i have dated for the past 2yrs and all has been well until recently her cousin accused her for sleeping with her husband on which its a lie. now her cousin approached my gf's mother and told her lies about everything even about me, telling her i m a free mason, a misician and have tattoos all over my body. this is a complete lie and now my gf is in trouble and her mother told her she has to choose between her mother or her bf. how can i approach her and show her that i'm not what she thinks i am? my gf doesnt have the courage to face her parents and defend herself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2012): "How can I show her mother I'm not what she thinks I am?"
You can't because you can't control what your girlfriend's mother wants to believe.
Unfortuantely it's a no win situation for you; family dynamics are not going to change, mother and cousin are not going anywhere, and until gf wises up and sees what cousin is doing to turn mother against you there's no way you stand a chance.
Get out now, it's only going to get worse. If Mom's in the habit of issuing "him or me" ultimatums to her daughter, Mom's in the habit of getting her way.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 March 2012):
 Well if she doesn't have the courage to do it then you will need to stand up and defend yourself, have you ever actually met her parents face to face? Talk to them and tell them that it is all lies and that you can prove yourself. It will show them that you have courage. Tell them how much you care for there daughter and show them how happy you can make her. If you want to be with her then fight for her.
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