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anonymous
writes:Me and my boyfriend finally broke up. We bin together for 2 years. And we bin on a brake for 6 months. It did hurt me and I cried about it wen he broke up with me but now im ok with it. I feel a relief. He put me in soo much. I gave it my all in this relationship. He dint appreciate me in annything. He tells me that he needs space now. That im gona be the one he's going to marry in the future but right now he don't want no relationship because he's going throe a lot of finicial problems. And because he don't know what he wants to do in his life right now. He wants to be good and straight before he goess to a seriece relationship. Should I belive him. Is he lieng to me. Did he leave me for another girl. Why don't I feel so sad and bad about us moving on. Is there something wrong wit me. Why do I feel a big relief.
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reader, xoen +, writes (26 July 2008):
 Dear Anonymous, I believe you are feeling relief because (and this is all my opinion) all people no matter how in love need breaks. You are not wrong for your feelings, and many other may be in the same situation or have gone through the same thing! Who knows why he wanted the break though. I can see a finacial problems as a major problem. Most guys like treating there girls, and he may feel bad for not being able to, so breaking it off is the best for that. No one can ever be sure of the future, but what we all can do is hope for the best and strive torwards it. He may be working on a possible future for the both of you. On the idea of another woman though... If he suddenly started spending alot of time with another woman then he may of left you for her. You did not say anything about anyone else so, unless there is someone else who was un-named, I would assume that my idea of working torwards a better future for the bo of you may be true. I do not know the whole story so my opinions are based off of what I have read from your post. The main question I have for you is this: Do you still love him? If you do then feeling happy does not quite fit... If you are happy and no longer in love then it DOES fit. Again in my opinion everyone will want some space eventually, wether the couple works through it or not is a diffrent question. I hope my post may help. (This is all souly my opinion)
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reader, BethyBoo  +, writes (26 July 2008):
 maybe you feel a big relief because you need space as well. believe him. think about it... why would he make up this big story about going to marry you (which would only cause problems for him) if he was just dumping you. he obviously cares about you, so maybe date some other guys and you might find that you will miss him more, the more jerks you date hahaha. id say just wait it out till hes ready and try dating other guys. :D hope this helps
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