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*milee127
writes:Me and my ex boyfriend dated for almost two years. We broke up officially four months ago, but really just lost contact about two months ago. He moved out of his house and into a house with a friend who I'm not too fond of because I don't think he's good for him. Since the break up he told me he needed space he had been telling me little white lies about smoking weed. I use to be very closed minded and now I'm okay if he smokes as long as it wouldn't be all the time.We didn't talk much for the first two weeks we were broken up, he still told me he loved me just needed space blahblahblah. I definitely played the desperate and needy role, I just wanted the pain the be gone. After three weeks, he contacted me told me he missed me and wasn't ready to jump into anything cause he didn't want things to go back to the way they were. Our main problems were the smoking behind my back and he wanted to hang out with his friends and I would get mad, which Was stupid of me. Since we've broken up I'm more open minded I have friends I would be so much better in the relationship. After he told me he missed me we were fine for a week and then I went to florida for six days. When I came back I saw him and he told me he loved me but wasn't in love with me he was happy with his new life. The next thing I know I hear he had sex with a younger girl. I texted him going crazy because I was so hurt. He ended up changing his number, he told people I was crazy but theOnly thing I did was tell him I loved him too much. So I found out confronted him about it and he was just an ass. For the next two weeks wed be at the same parties and hed always have to say something to me, but it was always mean and its like hii you don't want me so why are you being an ass? So for two weeks we didn't talk and then out of the blue I get a text from a weird number, it was him. He told me he was sorry I didn't deserve everything he's been doing and if I ever needed anything to let him know And that he was ready to be friends. So the next day we met up it was akward at first we just drove around then we went back to his house, he got high in front of me which was a first and he held me and kissed me and told me he loved me, he admitted to having sex with another girl and said he felt guilty and that he would rather it be me, I just cried and he rubbed my head. I got up to leave and he tried making me happy, he told me that he got jealous over things and had dreams about me being with other people.He kissed me goodbye and that's one of the last decent moments we had. Ever since then he's been an ass most of the time. He said he didn't know if well ever be together again and then a month and a half ago he said never. I slept with him once and then after that I didn't talk to him for five weeks. I text him this past sunday and he answered. He was short, but nice. I asked if he wanted to keep my company on a shopping trip and he agreed and I told him I'd treat him to dinner. The next day when we were suppose to goAnd he asked if we could go earlier I said no because I was wrking..I asked if he was still able to go and he said yes. Then an hour later he told me he didn't feel comfortable and I said how come? And he replied just the whole thing of me and you together.. And I was like it'll be fine, I don't miss you as a boyfriend just as a friend(which is a lie). And he said idk, not tonight, but soon.. I texted him later and said are you sure? And never got a reply..I haven't talked to him since then so its been about three daysSo my question is, what's does this mean? Do you think he's lying when he says he doesn't love me and well never be together again? And what should my next move be to get him back?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2010): if a man doesn't respond the way you want keep away from him.have some pride
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (15 July 2010):
 Why should he be lying ? If he wanted to be with you again, he would try to win you back, not to keep you at a distance. He would not change his phone no., he would not turn your invitations down.
He may still be fond of you- but now without you he can smoke weed at his heart's content ,and he enjoys that. He can have casual sex with other girls, and hang out with friends you frowned upon- and he enjoys that too.
In other words, he cares more about his freedom than about being with you,and he has both told you and shown you that.
This may be hard to accept, but the sooner you are able to accept it, the sooner you can heal ,move on, and find a more compatible partner.
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