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writes:I have been seeing someone very casually for a month, I was not looking for a relationship when we first met (coming out of a bad breakup) so suggested not getting too involved which he was ok with. We have slept together a few times but now he says he doesn't want to see me anymore as he is afraid of getting attached.Could this be just a line? I'd like to believe him but feel like it must be an excuse to finish things. He has not had any relationships before this one so I am hoping that it's not an excuse.Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2013): Actually you said to him you weren't looking for something serious. But it's him who has pulled away. I suspect he's moved on. If he really liked you, as he claims, I think he would hold on in there - perhaps it was a kind way of ending things. I would stop wondering and forget it, that's the best action.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2013): 'I think he simply means that he knows that if this goes on will inevitably take a more relationship-y turn, with more expectations, more implications and complications, of which he'd rather do without. Simply put, he's just not that into you'
I guess this might be what's happening, but you don't know that he is just not into me, you are not him and I would rather not start to have that idea im my head, I am already feeling bad about him finishing things suddenly because they were going well. Also I got the impression he was really into me. I would have liked to keep things going for a bit longer so that's why I care.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (5 March 2013):
 It COULD be a line, very possibly, one of the most cliche', time - honoured ones. It could also be the truth. sure, but. somehow, I doubt it.
This " fear " thing... always heard it mentioned, never actually seen it in action. Love-or lust :)- makes everybody fearless and brave to the point of recklessness, one does not give up to something really cherished because of " what if ".
I think he simply means that he knows that if this goes on will inevitably take a more relationship-y turn, with more expectations, more implications and complications, of which he'd rather do without. Simply put, he's just not that into you.
Only my personal opinion, I could be wrong, but, either way, does it matter ? You said you met casually for sex only and you did not want to get involved, so if it's over should not overly concern you .
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2013): Thanks for the answers.
I hope there isn't something he doesn't like about me, he did seem to really like me so its all very unexpected.
He has no experience with women, I had a boyfriend through school but he never went out with anyone so it makes me think he may be telling the truth, and he is just scared
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (4 March 2013):
I don't agree with sageoldguy, that's quite a generalization. I've never been one to need a "conquest" i just enjoy the one I'm with.
I don't see any reason to doubt what he's saying. It may be a line, but it sounds reasonable to me. Unless there is something about you that he really doesn't like, he's probably telling the truth. And I mean REALLY doesn't like, sense a friend with benefits doesn't need to meet strict requirements to be satisfactory.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2013): I dont know how many times I have heard that about men but I dont understand why he would want to stop if he is getting no strings sex, it doesnt make sense. Unless he is telling the truth and he is developing feelings.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (4 March 2013):
 Sorry to burst your bubble... BUT,... once a guy has "experienced" a woman (had $-x) then he is prepared to move on to his next conquest.... and the one he leaves behind (you!) gets to ask questions like you have posted, herein...
Think about this, in the future, before you decide to offer your favors to a guy...
Good luck..
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