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30-35,
*NothingLasts4ever-
writes:So recently stuff has been hard. I'm under quite alot of pressure from school to get the best grades I can and at home as well. So me and my friends started going out on a friday night and taking off the pressure by drinking. We've only done it for a few weeks and I've told my boyfriend about it.However, last night we went drinking and we had to go to the place my boyfriend works. Because I had had a few, I tried to avoid his bit so I wouldn't embarrass him. But he saw me. Later on, we ended up at a party with loads of other poeple. Nothing happened and I told my boyfriend I was there. He asked who was there and honestly didn't know so I told him. Then he started asking why I ignored him and I told him why.Then he started asking a load of questions I couldn't answer because I had no idea. Then he just said "so why are we still together, this is pointless, I can't handle all of this". No idea what he meant though, he's fine. He's got his grades, he has a decent job which he knows he's not going to lose anytime soon. We're still together at the moment but I haven't spoken to him since he said that.I just wanted to know, do you think he said to break up because it's an easy way out or because he really does want to break up? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2009): I would not jump to conclusions,NL. He may have just been concerned about what you are doing while he is working. His job is probably very important to him. He has to keep his mind focused. And if he has to worry about whether you are "with him" or not..while he is working, that can be rough. And, there is school on top of it all. He probably has a lot to deal with. I understand that you must have a social life, but, you might try to be more understanding of him...if you really want a relationship. These things are tough at your age, I know. You would probably like to have more time with him...and he would like more with you. But, try to think of where he is coming from at this time. He can't be with you as much as he wants, but he has to trust you.
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