A
female
age
41-50,
*9agegap
writes:Hi, want to know what this guy is thinking. Is he interested in me, or he's just not that into me?Firstly, a bit of background on myself. I'm 28, and just broke up with my ex-bf after almost a year together. I know this guy A for almost a year now. Apparently, when we first met a year ago, he had an interest in me. However, he found out that I was with my ex-bf, so nothing happened. A had a gf for a while and then we both had painful break ups with our respective ex-es a few months ago. We started hanging out more with a group of friends.After hanging out with him more, I realized that we have a lot in common and we are both looking to settle down and I started being interested in him. We have a common friend who told me that he asked A about me. A said that he would go out with me (IF i ask him out) and see how it goes but he's afraid of spoiling the dynamics among the group of friends and spoiling the friendship.After I heard that our common friend said, I tried to flirt with A more e.g. 1. chat with him online ( I chat him, he replies but then stops replying after a while. This has gone on for a few weeks). 2. flirt with him when we are out clubbing. I would hug him, stand close to him etc...and he stands close to me too but he does not openly hug me etc. Last night, we were out clubbing again and we both got kinda drunk. I was holding to a friend's arm as he led me to the washroom and back, and when we reached back to the group, he put my arm through A's and said that A's my bf. This friend was also pushing me towards A the whole night. Later during the night, another common friend suddenly took my hand and A's and said he'll pay for valet to drive both of us home. When A tried to refuse, the friend asked him 'not to pretend'. I was a little drunk ydy and some guy tried to pick me up, I reached over to A and held his hand (while he's talking to his female friend) and he held my hand tightly too....before letting go after a while.Well....I wonder if I'm just being too sensitive and he's just has no interest in me. Would appreciate any help.
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reader, 19agegap +, writes (3 August 2008):
19agegap is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhmm...i don't think all his friends know that I like him. Only one of them does, and he's the one who told me that A likes me first. In fact, it was quite 'common knowledge' among this group that A had the hots for me 1 year ago and now that I'm single, people are trying to push 2 of us together. However, A said that he's scared of spoiling the friendship. However, his actions really do not tally.....
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (2 August 2008):
 I think you have bounced back from your painful break up quicker than he has. I also think he is looking for a more mature woman and he may see your behavior as slightly young and immature. You are neither one in high school anymore. If you're interested in him, come forward and make sure you're sober. Best if luck.
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