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writes:I have known this guy for a couple of months and we are constantly flirting with each other. We don't really see each other that often because he has a job in a town 2 hours away from where we both live and I don't know when he comes up. I can tell that he is a really nice guy but he doesn't call me that often and I don't know if that is because of his job or he doesn't want to see me. I consider myself attractive and we have a lot in common but I'm not sure if he is interested because they say that when a guy is really into a girl, he will do anything to get her and this guy is rather quiet about it. Does he not like me or is he just shy? I would ask him out myself but my relationships have been horrible when I made the first move and I dont want to be the man in the relationship anymore
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you guys for all the answers! i guess i will just give him hints and wait it out and if he doesnt make a move, he's not worth it lol
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reader, Seguradenada +, writes (30 July 2009):
Oh gosh...this EXACT thing happened to me only, to say the least, nothing turned out the way I expected it.
This guy and I were schoolmates, had known each other casually for a fair amount of time, and were just beginning to REALLY hit it off. Of course, it was common knowledge (especially among the guys, and they teased him for it often) that despite being outgoing in all other regards, he was really shy when it came to girls. Despite this minor detail, all signs--and I mean, all signs--pointed to mutual attraction.
Long story short, time passes, and friends really start bugging the both of us to make a move. Neither of us does, the situation practically disintegrates, and on top of this, word gets out that he never really liked me.
*WHAT?*
Well, fortunately I wasn't too attatched to the guy (and DOUBLE fortunately I didn't make an ass of myself by trying anything fancy without being certain of hs feelings), but at the end of it all I was still left really confused. He had NEVER liked me?? But it had truly been so stupidly, ridiculously, pathetically, obvious! We are both svelt, attractive, intelligent individuals (and to this day remain friends), so it's not as though I was delusional! More than this, everyone else saw it, too! They were convinced we'd wind up dating, at the very least...
Anyway, whether or not he did like me (and is the pansy everyone accuses him of being) or is just really bad at sending the appropriate signals, the lesson to be learned is--let a guy show you he's interested, BLATANTLY, before you go chasing after him. It's not a mistake or a crime to go the extra mile for someone you like, but please, teach him a damn lesson and first make sure he likes you too. If he's too chicken to do anything at ALL, he really, really doesn't deserve you. Cross my heart. It's not worth it.
Best of luck.
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reader, AngelKittyXxX +, writes (30 July 2009):
 Hmmmmm, sounds like hes shy... i think you should ask him out, cause it sounds like you realy like him... i had a guy friend just like him, i fell in love with him, i kinda dropped a hint to him one night, i told him i was a little sad that i cant find my true love (Lol) and he asked if a kiss would help... and i got an amazing kiss from him, and an amazing relationship... but, my point, if you dont go for it, how do you kno if he likes you or not? i wish you the best of luck :)
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (30 July 2009):
 Maybe he thinks that because you are hot, you are already taken. If you don't want to make the first move, just give him some time.
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