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anonymous
writes:I've been dating this guy for about a month now, he's a few years older than me so I don't know if this is normal behaviour as I'm not used to dating!On all our dates we've had a lot of fun, enjoy each others' company, he's always such a gentleman and asks lots of questions about my life, tells me about his, remembers little things I say etc. Everything from the way he acts when we're together/ things he does/ says indicates to me that he's interested in me.I went to his place for our last date for a movie night and he cooked for me, and he showed up at the station to meet me and brought a couple of gifts for me (which I thought was really sweet as I wasn't expecting him to come and meet me - he lives a few mins away from the station so I would've just walked). He's always so considerate, compliments me, and he's told his friends about me and mentioned me to his parents.I spent the weekend at his from Friday night until Sunday morning when I had to leave. We cuddled up/ watched films all weekend and just had a nice time relaxing. He drove me back to my place and even gave me a lift to where I had to go after that. I text him a few hours later to tell him I had a great time etc; he responded that evening saying the same and that he downloaded a film I said I liked for us to watch sometime, and that he hoped I liked the presents etc. I replied Sunday night, but I haven't heard from him since and it's Wednesday afternoon already!We haven't slept together or done anything too risque, he's perfectly happy to take things slow, so it's not like I slept with him and he just lost interest or anything like that. He mentioned his friend who he hasn't seen for a few years was coming to visit at some point this week but I can't remember what day he said so maybe that's what's keeping him busy; but I'm not used to not hearing from him for this long! He's not the best at contact between dates, he usually contacts me 1/2x a day, last week he didn't speak to me on Thursday but then called me on Friday right after this important meeting he had, but didn't mention not having spoken so I don't know if that suggests he doesn't even think about this sort of thing? Is this lack of contact just a sign he's really not into me after all, or could he just be genuinely busy? Today will be the 3rd day of no contact and it's annoying me not knowing what's going on - I just want to know where I stand! If a friend of mine was telling me this same story I'd think something had happened to put him off, but I can't think of anything that could've done that, we always have a great time together! Can someone please have a guess as to what's going on here? Should I just call him or leave it a couple more days?
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reader, NORA B  +, writes (29 March 2013):
Really delighted for you.Hope everything works out for you both.Thanks for the follow-up.Best Luck for the future.Nora B.
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reader, NORA B +, writes (29 March 2013):
Really delighted for you.Hope everything works out for you both.Thanks for the follow-up.Best Luck for the future.Nora B.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (28 March 2013):
 ah I posted before your follow up!
can I dance around and say I told you so? (I'm kidding)
ENJOY... and please try to relax...
my husband has always said ONE of the most attractive things that CAUGHT him was that I didn't CARE if he wanted me or not... I didn't hound him or stress him out with worry about how he felt or what he meant.. I lived in the here and now with him.... within 6 months however I owned hm... trust me.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (28 March 2013):
So did you call him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionEverything is fine - I spoke to him earlier and he's taking me for coffee this afternoon - still sounded as affectionate as always :) I need to learn not to get so worked up about things like this!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI've been at work tonight so couldn't call him then, I'll call tomorrow evening but I still don't think it's normal for him to go that long without contacting me. It's very annoying because he seems so into me when we're together/ even through contact inbetween dates before this week!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (27 March 2013):
HE TOLD YOU.. his friend is coming to visit. IF this is a female friend I'd be nervous...
stop playing games and over thinking this and pick up the phone and call him.. you can start with "just touching base I know your friend is coming to visit but I forgot what days and just thought I'd say hi"
it's totally the truth.... go from there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2013): Call him tonight.I think calling is better than texting.Please let us know what happens.
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reader, NORA B +, writes (27 March 2013):
Well this boyfriend of yours sounds very nice and has much respect for you. As the lack of contact from him seems to be causing you some stress.Yes i would give him a call and ask him how he is but would keep it light. Best Luck Nora B.
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