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*twinklex
writes:So here it is, sorry if it comes across as a bit graphic but it seems better to be clear about what I'm asking.I've been with my boyfriend for about 3months and in general the sex is great. He's only my second sexual partner and there was over a year between him and my first time though I doubt that really matters.He's cum every time we've had sex however I've not orgasmed during sex. This doesn't actually bother me as it's not just with him (I didn't with my previous partner either) and I think this is more down to me still learning how my body works as part of a couple (I can get myself off by myself every time for example)I do however, LOVE the sex we have and get incredibly turned on by both sex and foreplay. But it's this that brings up my first problem - when I get turned on, I get really wet...and find that I end up feeling less sensation during sex. Don't get me wrong, I really enjoy sex and actually get off more on knowing the effect I'm having on him etc. The thing is, for example, when he cums..I can't feel it and it's starting to really bother me.The second thing is during oral sex. Now I really enjoy giving oral sex, and have no issue with swallowing either and actually enjoy that aspect too. This is where the problem is - he can't/won't cum during oral sex.From talking to my boyfriend about it, all of his previous partners weren't massive 'blowjob-fans' and hated the idea of swallowing and this has made it difficult for him to 'let go' so to speak. He's said that I'm really good orally and he loves it but I can't help but feel bothered and inadequate by this. Do you think it really is a new idea, and therefore difficult for him to cum? Or is he just lying to me to make me feel better about myself and my 'skills'?
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reader, xtwinklex +, writes (28 November 2010):
xtwinklex is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks, I just wanted to say I haven't been nagging about it lol, it just came up in conversation one night.. he brought it up not me (feeling nervous about finishing in my mouth) and part of me had been thinking that I was rubbish and he was just saying it to be nice.
I haven't mentioned it since and give oral just as much. Dya think he'll eventually relax enough with me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2010): One. Play with yourself while he's inside to, to make yourself come.
Two. No, he's just nearvous, plenty of guys don't until they know their gf is happy with doing what's she's doing. That can take a long time before the guy feels relaxed enough as well. Don't create pressure over the matter, because that will put him off. If you were bad, he wouldn't allow you to go down at all.
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