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writes:Reunited with an old friend. Mostly through fb and text. I will see him in November and have developed quite the crush. While neither of us has said anything he ALWAYS responds to my messages REALLY QUICKLY and uses lots of smiley faces. Is he just friendly or is he working toward something more when we see each other?
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reader, xanthic  +, writes (28 October 2010):
 He could just be the type to be really friendly, I wouldn't put too much thought into it until you meet and see how he acts around you in person.
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (28 October 2010):
 Having been thru this, almost exact situation and having my had my heart well and truly broken, I want to tell you to be careful and DO NOT jump to any conclusions or let yourself get too attached.
I also reconnected with an old friend thru facebook. I had always had a bit of a thing for him and we reconnected on a very deep level. He would text me every morning, during the day chat at night. But he was very difficult to pin down to actually meet - too busy with work and his sporting hobbies. I accepted that, even if it did annoy me a little.
For a year he would wish me good morning every day, told me how much we got along, and how I was the only person who "got" him and who he could really talk to. I fell in love with him. I was there for him thru the bad times and supported him in the breakup with his girlfriend (apparently I had made him see how little he had in common with her). I stupidly assumed he felt the same too.
Turns out, I was just being led on. He doesnt want me in any other way, other than as a glorified pen friend. I am there to talk to, flirt with, and entertain him, but I am not good enough to date in reality.
I see all the same things in your question as I felt.
Please be careful and do not let yourself get too attached until you know what his intentions are. Facebook enables people to say what they want, when they want. There is very little comeback on it. Its just words.
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reader, pip779 +, writes (28 October 2010):
The thing about guys is that they are nearly always attached to their internet gadgets be it a phone, laptop etc.
The instant responses you're getting may just be because he's constantly online and replying as soon as he sees a message from you.
Unfortunately there's no way to know what his intentions are and you should be clear in your mind before you meet up with him as to what your boundaries are. It may also be wise to explain to him beforehand that you are meeting up as friends only to catch up and he shouldn't read anything into it.
Most guys with a sense of self respect and respect for women will understand this and if he then blows you out for meeting up, you will know that he was just working you over for a bit of no strings fun.
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