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writes:I love my bf so much we have been together for 3 months but when something is bugging him he doesnt tell me right away because he thinks itll start a fight and sometimes it does but that shouldnt matter if its important right? And it always is to me. Always. How do i get him to tell me when things are bugging him? I really need to know how because i want to make things better. I want to fix whatever is bugging him because he is my heart and i dont want him to be sad or mad or worried about anything. I hate that. I wish i could make everything better for him. Please help? Reply to this Question
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (28 October 2010):
 Some men don't go around telling their girlfriend what's bugging them. They may think that it's not important enough to tell you and many times they think that it's easier if they deal with it themselves.
In your case though, I think your BF doesn't tell you because you probably make a bigger deal of it than it is. You say he thinks telling you will start a fight...he just doesn't want that.
What you need to do is not get him to tell you what's bugging him. You need to stop annoying him with wanting to know what's bugging him. You also need to tell him that you don't like to see him sad or upset and that if he wants to or needs to talk to you than you are there for him and you will listen patiently.
When you stop forcing something on someone, and give them space, you will find that they come to you more easily.
If you stop asking what's wrong, what's bugging you, why are you sad and instead just tell him that if he wants to talk he can and you're there to listen...he'll more readily come to you and tell you what's up.
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