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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi there I need some advice.I've been friends with this guy for about six months or so. We've spent a great deal of time together and became very close. Most recently, we started to develop feelings for each other, and finally came out with it. However, I had to tell him that I have HERPES. I cried on his shoulder. He needed some time to think, and I almost went into a despair because I thought I would lose him. I know it's a serious thing to consider. Then he came back, and opened his arms to me. We are spending a lot of time together and being as careful as we can be. He calls me every day when we don't see each other. My question? Is it possible he could be with me out of pure sympathy and to be a nice person? Because of my condition? Why would he does this? He's not a reckless person! Also should I let things fall into place or ask him if we're officially together?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2010): ~UNCONDITIONAL LOVE~I believe your boyfriend loves all of you. If he had an issue with your being a carrier of herpes, he would have left you before the information finshed rolling off your tongue.Relax. Your boyfriend loves all of you, and that is completely why he is still loving you.You are fortunate to have a boyfriend of substance who accepts and loves you unconditionally. He is a man of substance and intuned with reality and the true meaning of love, as unfortunately many subsist in shallow, detached dissolution maintaining love is an orderve platter, that which is casually deposited in the waste basket upon infestation of transient bacteria invisible to the naked eye or when time and gravity ages and withers away once aethetically beautiful treats.You have a good man. Lucky You!
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (5 December 2010):
 He wouldn't be doing this out of sympathy it would be too much to risk if he didn't really care about you. He will need some time though so I wouldn't try to rush anything. It's a big thing for him and I know it must be tough for you too. He'll make sure to let you know when he wants it to be official since I'm sure he will want to know what the relationship sexually be like before he is actually dating you because he would feel terrible if he found out something that he couldn't deal with later in the relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2010): I'm a male and when it comes to women, I've been raised with the courtesy and respect most gentlemen are found to carry. In regards to a woman, when I think of it in my personal perspective, I would think of this simple yet very complicated word: Love.
Love - It is one of the most selfless and caring emotions a human being can possibly ever carry in their heart for another person. Whether that person as an STD, or some other virus or disease, I'd imagine true love is something your man carries. You're very lucky. Cherish him and hold him dear to your heart, because he's willing to risk a lot just for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2010): If he's not a reckless person, he's staying with you cos he cares! He thinks being with you is more important than his health... wow, lucky ducky you!!...
-Tante Victoire
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