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writes:I just met a guy at work a few days ago. He works there too, but I just started a week ago. I work in a bookstore, and we passed each other in an aisle, and I smiled at him and he smiled at me, and then he stopped and said "hey, I don't think I've seen you around before", and I told him that it was only my fourth shift, and I usually worked days, and he kind of nodded. Then I said "I'm (my name) by the way" and he said his name and we shook hands, and I said nice to meet you, and he said it was nice to meet me too. If I remember correctly, there was a lot of smiling involved. Then he kind of chuckled (nervous laughter, perhaps?) and walked back the way he came. Then a little later he walked over and said "so how are you enjoying working here? Then laughed at himself a little and said "I mean, how are you *liking* working here?" and we chatted for a couple of minutes and then he left.Then I was talking with a customer and he wandered over and just stood there listening, and when the customer left, he started tossing a package of stickers in the air (which he proceeded to drop, haha), and I asked him how long he'd worked there and if he liked it, and he said about a month, and it was good except for one person. Then he walked away. Again... And then later after I was done my shift, and I was waiting for my mom to finish shopping, I was just wandering around, and he came over and he asked me when I worked, and if I worked any weekends, and he told me that he hasn't had a weekend off since he started the job. And then he said "well, I'll stop bugging you, have a good evening", and I laughed and said thanks, and he walked away. Thinking back now, I wish I had said something like "you're not bugging me at all", but I couldn't think fast enough, ha ha When we talked, he would tease me about being a "newbie", and we'd just joke around a bit. He was doing a fair bit of smiling and laughing, so that's good, right? I actually know him from when our soccer teams would practice together a few years ago, and I actually asked him if he'd played on that certain team because I thought he looked really familiar. He said that I kind of looked familiar too, but he wasn't going to say anything because people tend to look at him weird if he does... not sure if I should have brought it up or not. We both worked yesterday, but we didn't talk too much, hopefully because it was so busy...Among other encounters, I gave him a little wave and he said “hey” when we first passed each other, he asked me how it was going as he passed by, and (this might have been the biggest thing) when I was leaving, I saw him look at me as I was standing by the door, and then he walked over to say bye. Haha, he actually said "peace out" and then laughed, which I found adorable. But he did go out of his way to see me off, right? So I know he probably couldn't have a crush on me yet or anything, but do you think these are positive indications of romantic interest?Sorry this is so long!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2011): i woiuld say he has definite interest in you but he is either shy or he knows you like him so he is playing on that, usually people sense things from my experience. Just be aware of that and totally let HIM come to you, we all know that guys should be the one to call the shots, and i'm sorry but who cares that its a job, if a guy likes you trust me you will know about it in time, and i know PLENTY of people who got together because they work in the same place, infact its the most popular way of meeting these days, so if he likes you , he will MAKE a play for you and you'll know about it, cuz lets face it... love comes before any job! good luck hun let us know what happens! x
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (5 December 2011):
Hi there. It sounds like there is some interest there.
When you are both on the job in the store, you can't stop and talk much because that's not what they pay you to do, so other than "Hey" here and there and a smile, talk between you can only be limited.
You don't want to lose your jobs after all, do you?
Certainly, things seem friendly between you, and that's a good start.
As you have only been there a short time, don't rush up to him when you see him in your area. The occasional wave and smile so he knows you are interested in him also, is encouraging to him.
Just don't go overboard and try to tell him all about yourself and your life story. There's plenty of time for that.
And if you do get talking at another time, don't come straight out and say you are available and don't have a boyfriend at the moment. He will figure that out for himself.
Let him pursue you, because you don't want him to think you are needy and desperate. Men really don't like that at all.
Be friendly and take it slow. Get to know each other.
The getting to know each other, is going to have to be in your breaks.
Remember, jobs are still hard to come by, and it's almost christmas.
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