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writes:(Mod note: Titled by poster)Hi, there is this guy in my year and i really like him. We both are in relationships with people who go to other schools but when we see each other we always hug, grab each others behind, or just flirt. When we are in a group of friends we will always stand with each other and talk or share a brolly etc. Everyone says we suit and we'll just say we have a boyfirend and girlfriend etc. But the truth is I cant stop thinking about him. I think he likes me but I hope he's not a player to be honest I'll be crushed. What should I do?And btw I like him more than my current boyfriendthankQ xx
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reader, Cowboy255  +, writes (27 February 2010):
Well is it you like him because he shows more attention to you or your boy is around find out what makes that boy tick if you have to. What kind of group does he fall in I'd avoid constant partying types I was one but I wasn't a deusche like my other buddies were.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2010): you are young, have fun,i say go for it.theres plenty of guys out there even if he is a player
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2010): If you like him more than your current bf it's obvious you should be dumping him either way. As far as this guy at your school goes, if he knows you have a boyfriend then he should be leaving you alone. He's a player in that sense, by taking advantage of the time you have away from your current bf. Whether you admit it or not, you obviously don't love your current bf enough to stay with him, if you're acting available to this guy while your bf's not there. If anything, this new guy views you as a player, by acting and feeling how you do with him, while your bf's not around. He's not much of a decent guy if he's taking advantage of you're being like that behind the bf's back. If you can find that charming about him, then be with him. If not, then don't.. It depends on your standards. Good luck with the puzzle I've presented to you. Meditate on this answer for awhile and you'll know which decision is right for you. It also depends, remember, on how much you actually do like this new guy..maybe you really do, but then maybe you've just got yourself all psyched up about him, glamorizing everything about him.. You be the judge, but remember you'll have to live with whatever regret may follow, either way. Do you really like this guy more than your current bf, or would you feel differently given more time around your bf, and less time around this guy. It's also very easy to forget how you feel about someone when they're not right beside you, physically, so think hard how much of an impact this new guy should make, being he has the luxury of being around you all the time, influencing you. He may also be very manipulative whether you truely can see through his flirting or not. So take your time with this situation, and try to really sit back and wonder if you don't possibly love your current bf more than what you would like to think, given the presence of the new guy. Let your heart be your guide, but think it over very carefully. Sometimes your heart can mislead you, so be careful. Good luck with your decision.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2010): Well what i can tell u is that tell him how u feel and see what he says. If he says he likes u and wants to be with you than leave ur bf for him. Do what makes u happy
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reader, I_don't_know +, writes (27 February 2010):
You know... I don't think it can end up well. If he's flirting with you while he has a girlfriend what makes you think he won't do it to you? I also think it's always good to be honest with the person you're with to avoid hurting someone in the future. Tell him what's going on. Be honest, you can never lose.
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