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writes:Long story short, I recently met this guy in one of my classes. He seemed really cool and he asked me if I wanted to go to the movies with him Friday night. First off, we both paid for our own ticket..I mean we're college students and imax movie tickets are expensive, so I wasn't expecting much. After the movie we went out to eat and he bought us food and we went back to his place to eat. At his place we did a whole lot of talking and laughing..it was really nice. Eventually it got late so he took me home. When I was about to get out the car he didn't kiss me goodnight or anything...it was weird I said thank you and I had a good time and left. The next morning I wake up to a text saying like thank you for last night it was really cool..my question is he into me or is he just looking for friendship? I'm not looking for anything serious but I would like someone to like hang out/ have sex with. We text like everyday....even though his replies are like an hour or so apart sometimes.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (25 April 2016):
 It sounds like he is in to you, enjoy his company and see what happens. Don't worry about him not kissing you, he might just be taking his time, good for him. Not a lot of people want just sex so if that is all you are offering you should tell him if things start to progress, but please do be careful and wear protection.
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reader, Garbo +, writes (24 April 2016):
 First date is always problemstic because of uncertainty of what the other side expects and with which speed. So he did a standard thing, not to push for a kiss goodbye because you did not hint at it. It's called not spoiling his chances. So he continued talking with you the next day, but had he not cared about you, there would have been no text.
Virtually 100% of guys want sex, so if that is your expectation then you will get that. Believe me, he wants it more then you, however, no normal dude goes on a first date telling the girl how he is there only to get some. The important part, for the female, is to establish the vibe, so just go with the flow and sex will come.
Finally, there are men who will drop girls if her aim is not to have a serious relationship or if he sees that the girl is incapable of one. You may want to see where he stands on this issue, as well as whether you want that or not.
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reader, femmenoir  +, writes (24 April 2016):
 Hi,
based on everything you've stated, i would say that this guy is a great guy and a great catch!
In this day and age, whereby so much is based around sex, it's so refreshing to know that there are young men and women out there, who aren't into sex only and are prepared to enjoy their precious youth, with those they like hanging out with, but not just for self sexual gratification.
You may wonder, why he didn't make a move and kiss you.
Well, it's because he is a gentleman and treats a lady as she ought to be treated, a lady.
If he tried to get into your pants (excuse the pun), almost immediately, you'd probably think very different of him, although you admit you'd like to have sex.
At your young age, why must you require sex without the commitment?
You need to think about STDs, unwanted pregnancy, etc;.
But even moreso, the emotional aftermath of having had sex, just for the fun and sake of it.
Your body is your temple and if you wait until you're in love with the right guy, then you will truly enjoy such an intimate and sacred experience.
When i was your age, i got pregnant and gave birth to my son.
Although i love my son more than life itself, if i could do my life over again, i would have waited until i met my truest love, to conceive a child.
Now that i am older, i have met my truest love, but i cannot change the past.
I have to live with that knowledge always.
Always think about the potential consequences of YOUR ACTIONS, even though, at the time, it may seem like much fun.
All in all, this guy likes you very much, because he has chosen to spend his time with you.
Just because a guy and a girl hang out together, doesn't mean it has to be, anything more than just a platonic friendship.
He may be testing you out, taking his time, to see what type of girl you really are.
The funny thing is, you are not looking for anything serious, however, he may be looking for a more exclusive relationship with you, but he feels no need, nor desire to rush, which is actually a great thing to do.
Why? (you may ask)
Again, because he likes and respects you.
If he just slept with you, then what?
I would encourage you to just enjoy this relationship and who knows, maybe with time, he may and YOU may find, you both have something more in common and you may come to realise that you do have feelings creeping in for him.
Even if you don't, that's fine and that's your right, your perogative, but if it's primarily sex that you're after, then you are hanging out with the wrong guy.
All i can say, is what you're taking forgranted now, you will one day, value and cherish.
This guy is a pearl in the sand, so hang onto him and above all, appreciate his respectful friendship and be kind to him.
I wish you all the best! :-)
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