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writes:Okay, so there's this guy I am somewhat interested in. And one day he came up to me, and asked me for my name. He purposely came over to talk to me even knowing I am gay. On top of it, he's very shy with everyone else, but he seems to only talk to me a lot. And on the occasion he jokes about something, but only with me. May I mention he smiles a lot, when I talk to him? And now I am at a point where I think he may like me.Then again I could be confusing his kindness for interest, but on the other hand. I am getting the vibe he might be interested. There are times, when I am walking and he catches up from behind me and just makes conversation like, "So are you done for the day. etc..etc...Take care." Also, I've been reading up on body language...and I am convinced that there has to be some form of connection between us. There's always direct eye contact in each other's eyes, again he smiles a lot whenever I say something...Also sometimes I lean very close to his face because he talks very low, and other times he leans close to mine to listen, and this happens a lot. Plus, he always remembers things I tell him I am doing over the weekend and even stuff I forget I told him I was doing or thinking of doing---and when I see him again the next time he asks about it "How did _______ go?" So does this guy into me or not into me?
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reader, AvgGuy1 +, writes (27 May 2010):
 Answer to your next questions.
1. YES start studying with him. Do ANYTHING that can get face time with him. Even if it seems innocuous. You only get to know someone better by spending time with them.
2. You can't really make a request to spend quality time with someone if you don't really know them... so go back to #1. ;-) You can ask what he's doing and things like that... but at this stage really coming out and just asking him is a little risky.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you AvgGUY1. That certainly helps clarify a lot of things. See, initially I didn't think he was very much into me. Then progressively, I began noticing small signs that made me think otherwise. I didn't rush into any conclusion, until I started amassing all the signs. For example when we are in a large group with some decent looking guys and girls, he only speaks to me. Then we're leaving and he casually follows up right behind me to talk to me, even if it's something very casual or that he already knows. I assume his intentions are just to make conversation. And by the way I very much fancy him, as well. Now it's time for step 2. Once again thanks for the advice.
Bluessy, thank you so much as well! Just the fact he finds me interesting, makes me really happy. I am pretty sure I fancy him.I don't know, I didn't think of anything until I started putting the signs together. I mean aside often making direct eye contact, asking me questions based on what I told him the previous week, walking with me outside of class; He seems to always be offering me stuff, like gum or mints. On the other hand, maybe he's giving me an indirect my breath stinks :p Though in my defense, I groom myself well and in addition to properly brushing my teeth, I use mouth wash. So I am thinking he offers because he's just kind...Anyway, thanks for the advice.
Anyway quick question...
I see him this Tuesday, and I am wondering. What's a good way to start if he's very shy? I was thinking since we have a mutual class together, perhaps I could ask him to study. However, is that too boring? I also considered of just telling him that I'd like to see him over the summer, and since class is ending I thought maybe we could hangout over the summer, followed by a request to exchange phone numbers. Or is there a better way to approach a very shy potential gay guy.
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reader, bluessy  +, writes (21 May 2010):
 Sounds like he is into you or at least finds you very interesting. However, Just to be sure...Ask him out to some place that you know he'll enjoy. Because he seems to be a shy person I would gear the outing to some place interesting but quiet.
Best of Luck!
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reader, AvgGuy1 +, writes (21 May 2010):
HE's TOTALLY into you!
I was like that with my best friend in college. You could say... I even 'stalked' him. I knew every class he was takings, when it was scheduled, where he'd be, everything. He's into you! The question is... are you into him? If so... you should hang out with him MORE! Spend the weekend together doing WHATEVER... just hanging out, watching TV/movies, studying. Whatever you both wanna do. He's into you... but he's probably paranoid that you are not into him. Let him know you are interested.
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