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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:Okay, so I've known this guy for about a year or two and I've started to develop a crush/obsession. Some of the girls in my clique have developed feelings for some guys, all of whom hang out together; I've recently told them I have a crush on one of the guys, too. We're all cool with that, lusting over them is now something of a hobby LOL. But I'm having so much trouble trying to figure out if he likes me or not, and I believe I'm too blinded by infatuation to deduce this for myself. After previous crushes, I've learnt that my heart sometimes reigns over judgement, so I'm just looking for an outside opinion.We have several classes together and get along well; we talk often. When I first met him, I found him constantly looking my way; several friends noticed it, too. An acquaintance of mine did a little shit stirring, like she does, and upon my first day of meeting him she claimed he 'fancied' me. I initially wasn't too surprised considering his behavior, but at this point I still considered him a mutual friend. In one of my classes, he was incredibly flirtatious and constantly called out to me; wanting my attention. I'd usually sit with my back to him just to see his reaction, and this usually stoked the fire (so to speak) and made him even more desperate to grab my attention. He would turn to his friend, mutter, whisper and then glance at me before turning away and repeating this. I'd catch him looking at me with great interest and sometimes 'bedroom eyes'. I found this amusing and still spoke to him and acted friendly, I sometimes flirted back. However, my best friend has a crush on his best friend, and his clique drifted closer to us over the weeks. Then they suddenly all started acting cold and distant, and have remained this way. Do boys play hard to get? I don't know, but it happened quickly and made me question myself.Then I developed a crush upon the guy I mentioned before, and simultaneously the guy who my friend was crushing on found out about her. Then they became even more distant; and the guy I like seldom speaks to me, now. I try my best; I try to ignite conversation, but it rarely continues for as long as I'd want. Whilst acting uninterested, however, he still sometimes displays attraction through his body language. He makes an effort to show more skin in front of me, but I don't know if he's genuinely interesting or just messing around. Help!
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reader, TashaLovesPeople +, writes (23 March 2011):
 This was somewhat long and I might have lost track of the topic, but here's what I think: Boys from ages 13-15 aren't ready for "love." They typically want girls to get them in bed, then they move on. It's a thing of immaturity, and it will definitely pass. I'm going to single out him and his friend for a second, from the group. They might have come up with an idea that both you and your friend are using the other boy to score with one. If that makes sense. For instance, your "crush" might have thought that you were flirting with him to get closer and help benefit your best friend into dating his best friend. At this age, it's never crystal clear. I've had a lot of signs from boys, and it turned out that I was confusing infatuation with random glances in my direction. If you don't really know him, don't waste your time. There could be someone else who is secretly loving you, and this guy could be a complete jerk.
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