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writes:Hi there.So I have known George* for about a year now, but we really just started noticing each other in college during the past 2 months or so. George knew that I was in a long-term relationship, so obviously he did not make a move then. But recently, my boyfriend and I broke up. Now I am wondering if George is really interested enough in me that he may ask me out.We've had quite a few good interactions so far, but they are a little confusing (keep in mind All of these occurred while George thought I still had a boyfriend), so here they are, in order:- I wore a cute/sexy outfit to class one day and sat by him and he got kind of fidgety and nervous around me then, and other days- We sat together and worked in class and he smiled at me a lot and seemed to like talking to me- I ran into him at the bus stop and was too shy to say anything but Hi, and he said Hi back and kept walking past- Class was cancelled and I ran into George again at the bus stop. This time I waved him over and talked for a couple of minutes and he smiled but looked a little confused, and I smiled too.- George did not sit by me in class, but instead sat near another girl and laughed with her during class- I asked him and another person in the class if they wanted to grab lunch afterwards and they said yes. The three of us sat down for about an hour and talked together. Then the other person left, leaving just George and I. The conversation flowed really well for another 40 minutes, George was turned towards me, smiling, laughing really easily, asking questions, and listening. He asked me specific questions like where I lived on campus, which bus I took; he told me exactly where he lived and emphasized how great it was to be living somewhere with his Own Room that he didn't share with anyone. I told George I was going to meet a friend of mine that night whom I had been having a fight with.- I sent George an online message saying that it had been really nice talking to him and that we should have done it sooner. He replied within a few hours, saying that it was really nice to get to me, too, and told me good luck with my friend and that he hoped everything would work out between my friend and I.- I tried to sit near his normal "spot" in class and he saw me and sat in the same row but three or four seats away; when class was over I hoped that he may come talk to me so I dawdled a little, but he was too far behind me, so I went on my way- I went to the cafeteria to wait for a friend, and saw George come in the door. I saw him come in, but he didn't see me. Eventually he came around the corner and saw me and asked if what I was doing there and if I'd missed my bus. We talked and smiled for a few minutes before he had to go and catch the elevator.So what I'm wondering is, is he obviously interested in me? Or is he just trying to be polite and return my advances so he doesn't hurt my feelings? Are my signals clear enough?Also, we are in the same class every day, at least through the end of the year - might that stop him from asking me out? I am also 2 years older than he is.In either case, I would love to go out with him...what should I do to encourage him?Thanks!*name changed
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reader, didda123  +, writes (31 January 2009):
 If you haven't already replied you could do so saying that's ok about Saturday but if he fancied doing something sometime just to let you know, then you could leave the ball in his court so to speak.
If you have already replied just leave it until after Saturday and then you will at least have something to ask him about when you next see him and try to steer the conversation around to the two of you doing something together or maybe you can find out just what is going on in his life and if he is actually already seeing someone.
Hope it works out x
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reader, alskling +, writes (31 January 2009):
alskling is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo it's been about a week; not much interaction b/c he was gone for a few days. Today I sat by him in class and he talked to me a little, and I got the feeling he was interested in me b/c he was turned towards me and definitely leaning close to me. The problem is that my friend Al is apparently becoming interested in me, and is oblivious to the fact that I am interested in George... So Al ended up talking to me a lot, which probably confused George, and made it hard for me to talk to George. At any rate, I got tired of these "almost" connections and electric hours of sitting next to each other in class and decided I would send George a Facebook message saying that one of my friend's bands was playing and my friend Jane was supposed to go with me but had bailed on me and did he want to go with me instead. He replied with, "i'm actually going to be in monroe tomorrow taking care of a friend who got her wisdom teeth out today, im sorry!"- FYI, Monroe is about an hour's drive from where George and I are. -- What is going on? Is he being nice and trying to say "I'm not interested" without actually saying that? Or is it possible that he actually is driving an hour away to take care of a female friend, who just got her wisdom teeth out, for an entire Saturday? If it is an excuse, I guess it's a pretty good one... Help!
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reader, alskling +, writes (27 January 2009):
alskling is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks, didda123! That's really helpful. Hopefully he'll make a move soon. I did update my Facebook relationship status, but it's possible he won't realize it unless he actually looks at my page, so maybe I'll try to drop a hint, like you said :)
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reader, didda123 +, writes (26 January 2009):
I am sure he likes you but i am not totally convinced he likes you the way you would like that is unless he is holding back some on some signals because he still believes you are in a relationship.
If you have mutual friends get them to drop a hint for you that you aren't dating anyone now or since you seem to chat fairly freely now with him why don't you drop it into the conversation and if he comments on it just say jokingly that you have a lot of free time on your hands now so if he has any suggestions lol.
That way he can either laugh it off which won't be so hard to take from your point of view if he is not keen or he can take you up on the offer which is the option you prefer.
Go on take the plunge you may be pleasantly surprised x
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