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*onfusedandthensome
writes:I know this question has been asked a million times, but I'm here to ask again. I am NOT a teenager, rather a 38 year old woman, trying to figure out if my best guy friend is interested in more than friendship. We text OFTEN, not daily, but often and over the past few weeks it seems as if he has been going out of his way to figure out ways for us to see each other, we live 2 hrs. apart. Most of our conversations are just friendly, our texts are not flirtatious or sexual, we don't spend time staring deeply into each others eyes, yet I feel there is a spark there. How can I tell? I don't want to ruin our frienship by opening up if he has no feelings for me, but the closer we get the harder time I am having keeping my feelings platonic.
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reader, Playerinrehab  +, writes (8 March 2010):
I wish I could help you out, sadly I'm only 19 and waiting for
an answer to my own question. I'll do the best I can anyway. In my experience simply telling someone how you feel tends to end awkwardly and in a negative way. If I were you I'd ask him over to watch a movie or something, find an intimate moment (perhaps stargazing) and see if he reacts. If he's not the shy type and he likes you he'll more than likely go in for the kiss. If you think he's shy try initiating it yourself. Once again I'm only 19 and don't pretend to speak with any authority whatsoever, just trying to help as best I can, goodluck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2010): Chances are he's interested. I do similar stuff with my close friend who I have a thing for. As for bridging that gap, I say go for it. The problem I see is the distance. While it's not a really long way, it could be long enough that you might not want to start a relationship.
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reader, Kenj  +, writes (8 March 2010):
 If hes going out of his way to make excuses then yes theres a good chance he has other feelings for you.
Does he touch you, like on the arm or shoulder in the course of conversation? Is he doing little things for you that he never did before?
The best way to find out for sure and if you have the same feelings for him is just ask him on a date, if he says no then dont push it and just carry on with your good friendship.
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