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writes:Hi, this is quite a complicated question but any advice would be greatly appreciated.To paint the picture, I'm known as a bit of a manwhore at work. Recently I started courting a girl from work quite successfully. I purposefully didn't kiss her on our first date as I normally would beause she already thinks I'm a slut and I was trying to sway her opinion. Thing is I actually like this girl and after a couple of years of manwhoring around town she's the first girl I've met that I actually just enjoy being around. On the second date we ended up kissing for about 4 hours straight(probably couldve gone for home base but I wanted to wait until she was ready). I've had plenty of sexual encounters before but I can honestly say this was the most intimate time I've ever had with another human being. She hadn't been on a date since her last relationship a couple of years ago, and she's sort of shy. She asked me not to tell anyone at work as she doesn't like people talking about her. I honored her request. The day after our second date I msgd her and asked if I could see her. She said she was already hanging out with one of her close friends. Later that week I asked her out 2 more times, she was busy both times. Thing is I know for a fact she's a busy person butin my opinion if you really liked someone you'd make time to see them. I sent her a message yesterday asking if she was just avoiding me to which I am yet to recieve a reply. I suppose my question is, is this girl just playing hard to get or doesn't she like me? I know for a fact that other guys at work are chasing her. What would you do in this situation? I want to be with her but it seems she's always busy, and I don't want to smother her by constantly asking her if she's free. But I fear if I don't do anything the other guys will get her. Please help! This is driving me crazy, for the first time in a long time I actually felt something, now it seems like my only option is to go back to my player ways. ): if you've bothered to read this far I thank you in advamce!
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reader, babealicious1  +, writes (8 March 2010):
hiyaaaa. I think it does indicate that she likes yous if she spent four hours kissing you. (unless she was drunk) i believe you did the right thing texting her, but maybe shes heard something that idicates you are more of a player? or maybe she is just shy? in my opinion i think you should ring her, and discuss how you feel, tell her what youve told us, apart from dont hit at home with the player thing as much. but if she declines your calls i believe it will be because shes not interested, but dont give up hope yet!
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reader, Kenj +, writes (8 March 2010):
 I think if she had any kind of strong feelings for you she would make time to see you regardless of how busy she was.
Theres also nothing wrong with kissing or hugging on first dates if you both take to each other but no need to kiss passionate.
Kissing for 4 hours on a second date is a bit excessive and has probably put her off you unless she really likes that kind of stuff.
I don’t kiss my girlfriend for 4 hours strait and we are both in a committed relationship.
Seriously you need to start thinking with your head and not your penis then you will get the girls who you really like and who really like you.
It's not a race and building loving relationships take time. A relationship built on kissing and sex is not going to last long and you will find yourself having a lot of short term girlfriends and probably STD's.
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reader, SanDiegoGuy  +, writes (8 March 2010):
She has more professional ethic than you and realizes that dating someone from the same workplace is a bad plan. Stop trolling your employers work pool and go out and meet people away from work.
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reader, SanDiegoGuy +, writes (8 March 2010):
Don't dip your pen in company ink.
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