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writes:I have this friend, a guy, that I have known for over 2 years now. We are very good friends and get along great. We would hang out and drink and talk and have soooo much fun. He would get a little touchy feely with me, but that was ok. He was sending mixed messages to me. Well, stupid me fell in love with this guy. And even more stupid me told him how I felt. He told me, rather abruptly, that there is "nothing there". I was crushed. The way he acted was so far off from the way he acted before. He stayed away for just over a month. Now he is back to texting and hanging out with me. Being the wonderful man I fell in love with. He hasn't had a relationship in many years. We talk about everything imaginable. Stuff he would never tell his other friends. I feel so close to him, and I know he feels close to me. Is there a chance that this guy is interested in me? Please help...thank you....
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (22 August 2008):
 There must be something that affected him before that makes him relunctant to get into a relationship.
If you're close with him as much as you say you do, ask if he ever wants to be in a relationship (specify him it doesn't have to be with you). Try to be comprehensive and supportive.
But I will say for now to not expect too much from this guy. From what you've told, he seems to be pretty clear that he was sincere to you. To me, he only sees you as his best friend and probably nothing more than that. And the reason he left for over a month was because he thought his presense was the one that affected you and he thought the best solution was for him to get out off the picture so your feelings would go away, yet he couldn't shake off the reality that you two are dear friends and that shouldn't end.
I know it must feel incredibly bad to love someone and not have them back. It's one of the worst feelings anyone could have, but please don't let that interfere with your friendship with him. He sounds like a great guy, so don't lose his friendship.
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