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female
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51-59,
*arity
writes:Help! My husband has been texting/calling a lady for over a month and says I shouldn't mind this. At first I thought it was just innocent friendly, keeping in touch chat. He supposedly meet her on the road (he is a otr truck driver) and breifly talked and been keeping intouch sence. I found out that he has been lying to me, he told me he told her he was married and had children and he denied sending her pictures of himself. I used his phone and text this lady and she thought I was him so I asked her to send me the pictures that I sent her back to me couse I lost them in my phone and would't you know it she sent two back one of him in a speedo and then I said by the way this is his wife a she replied is this a f###### joke? So I said ha ha I got you, you know I am not married and she replied I didn't think so but I have been fooled before. Then I text that I was really his wife and she personally called me to inform me that there was nothing between them and wanted to know why I would think that. She said she didn't understand why he sent the pictures and that she understood he was divorsed and had two kids that he never sees and the only time he seemed to flirt with her is when he said it was his twin talking and not him. (but was him) I confronted him with this and he denies it all so do I believe a stranger or the man I loved and trusted for most of my life? It doesn't look very good for him, does it? Is he innocent or a nut?
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reader, Darity +, writes (15 April 2009):
Darity is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you to everyone for the advice, but unfortunately our marriage is over we have decided to go seperate roads as he can not forgive me for my past. He says I screwed things up for him and this great friendship he had with this lady and I had no right to be jealous. Iam devastated, I can't imagine life without him but can't continue to live the way we do. I feel I'm a good person and made one mistake years ago and I am tormented by it everyday of my life, my husband calls me a lier almost daily and stupid and told to pull my head out of my **s all the time. Know I am faced with raising two young children and figuring out how to get a full time job (only been working casual) and finding day care. I don't have any close friends I feel like I have been nothing more than a stay at home mom for so long I lost touch with the outside world and resorted to talking to all of you because I have no one, I feel so alone. I would love to hear from any of you if only a few words of incouragement. Sad and broken heated, Darity
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2009): It is simple he is lying and trying to turn the table by bringing up past events. 2 wrongs do not make a right and in his case it seems that he is implying this. It is easy for me to sit here and judge but the decision is all yours to make. If you are too confused make a pro's and cons list. As someone else has suggested he has probably done this many times before and now you know how comfortable are you when he is at work? What is and will be going through your head? Can you just continue as if this never happened and go on to live a happy life together or will this keep popping up in arguments also in future years?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2009): im a driver myself,and thats where i met my wife,was otr at a fueling stop.dont let him BS you.hes busted.tell him to MAN UP.try seeing someone, counseling,or someone to try to get it back on track, but i doubt its his first,simply its his first time he got busted.you DO realize you will never trust him again,and for good reason.
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reader, Darity +, writes (18 March 2009):
Darity is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI just talked to him on the phone and he will not apologize to me says he has done nothing wrong and that the lady is making this stuff up to mess things up for him. and if I believe her then I should file for divorce because he did nothing wronge and he also constantly brings up my past (lied about something to him and others and finally told him the truth, but haven't told the others the truth) and he says I can't say anything to him about lying untill I come clean. soo confused! please someone tell me what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2009): He's a nut w/ a twin inside him .i would try marriage counciling or just talking more every relationship needs communication good luck , speedos why to show off his package?
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reader, Dazed~Confused  +, writes (18 March 2009):
 She has no reason to lie to you, but he has every reason to do so.
He got caught, and instead of manning up, he's behaving like a child and lying to get out of it.
You obviously have a decision to make, and the two of you need to talk and figure out why he did this. You then need to decide whether this is a deal breaker for you or not.
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