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female
age
30-35,
*majayne
writes:I need help desperately. I am incredibly confused and in dyer need of some input/opinions. I have asked a grand total of two questions before. First one concerning my boyfriends habits and me being a mother, and the second being once again about his habits and me saying "alright...this is the end!." And then he dumped me a week ago Monday. I didn't think it would have hurt that much but it did. We both figured it was for the best as all we did was argue and i didn't agree with his pot smoking, racist and homophobic tendencies. There are so many things that i can find wrong with him compared to the things i find i like about him. When we broke up all i could think was that i wanted him back desperately. We have broken up once before and that lasted a week. We lasted 8 months after that. sooo...that makes our relationship worth 1 year and 8 months. He kept saying he was sorry and he regretted splitting with me and that he was sorry for overreacting when i told him about my friends over seas that i want to go see next summer, and he knows he treated me like shit, and he wants to get back together.Recently he has been asking me a tone of questions about our relationship that I'm just not ready to answer. I get backed into a corner and give a different answer to the same question i don't know how many times. He got mad at me and had a go. I'm feeling really neutral about the whole thing. I just want some time to be friends. What makes this even more difficult is we share lockers, we have the same friends, and we made all those friends together as we have been going out since valentines day in grade 9. we are both 16. We have first period class together, so there is really no escape, not that I'd want that. He has been just making assumptions that we are going to be going back out soon, he has even brought up being "friends with benefits" and anything to try and get me back on his side. I think he can see right through my sad attempts at getting out of a question by saying "of course i care about you" and sees he's losing the battle. He has said things to me like "u were my ugliest girlfriend" and when i said "oh so u think I'm ugly!" he goes "no...you are beautiful..but have u SEEN my other girlfriends?" He is a very physical person and relies on that to save his but. All my friends are saying we should get back together and they hope we do so i stop being so moody. My ex boyfriend is trying so hard to get back with me. My parents would completely freak if i did, my friends would be happy but they would give up entirely from telling me to chuck him and they would all think i was a poof. I'm not sure if i still love him the way i used to, and is he really in love with me or is he just in love with the whole not being alone thing? I am just really confused and need some help. ANYTHING will do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2007): What a jerk- leave him! You don't have to get back with him just because your friends want you to. I think you should stay single for a while, and heal emotionally.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2007): If you take my advice, try listening to your parents. Despite what youngsters think, they usually know best.
This lad is going nowhere fast. Pot smoking is not only illegal, it is dangerous for leading on to other illegal substances, and as a recreational tool using it is plain stupid.
Concentrate on school work, you don't need all this aggro at your age.
Oh - almost forgot - get rid of this jerk once and for all, you will do better for yourself a couple of years down the road when you've matured a bit and can recognise a loser from a winner.
Phil
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