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30-35,
**Diamond**
writes:i been dating this boy since i was a freshmen in high school, he is now in college and im now a senior. He agreed that we would stay together. The first year of college everything was ok but this year everything went wrong, he would only call me once a week and he would always have excuses to why he aint called and he would only text me now and then.Do you think he wants to break up with me but he doesn't know how?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2009): As soon as he was away and could do anything he wanted without your supervision or his family's, he was out trying to experiment in wild sex with random girls. This is just part of his personal development and you should accept it and wait for it to run its course, which could last for several years. When he's through, if you are still hot and sweet, he may come back to you. Otherwise, you should be working on plan B. Hopefully plan B is nearly or already out of college, has money/good job and can focus all his time and attention on you right away.
Most young women like yourself are not sharp enough to figure this out in time and end up pining away for years and/or cheating back with dead end relationships until they realize too late the guy is gone (about to marry some other girl) and they have nearly squandered the good looks and freshness that youth has temporarily given them.
If you are smart, you will take full advantage of your young good looks by trapping a good guy of your choice and nailing him down before another hot young thing gets him first and railroads him into marriage before you can have a shot at him. And this is what the smart, young, good looking girls are doing. Just look around you.
Start looking at guys who are about to graduate from college who show good future prospects. Pick a good one, one that you really like and that kisses your ass and will take care of you (or perhaps you+baby.) He might even help you pay for school if he thinks he wants to marry you and most guys I know with good jobs and/or money won't complain about it when they really love their girls.
Make sure you get a good look at his family too. If you like them/they don't seem too crazy, then make him marry you. Just obligate him by telling him you're leaving if he won't commit. It's that simple. Don't let him "rent" you like all these dumb girls do when they live with their boyfriends. Good for the boyfriends... sex and no commitment... not so good for the girl... no commitment and lets face it, you're not getting any younger and hotter are you?
Sorry if I offend the poor feminists. This is just an honest guy's opinion with the balls to tell it like it is.
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reader, bitch +, writes (26 November 2009):
Hi honey, I am not sure what is going on here but possible you are right in your instincts that he might be trying to slowly end the relationship. It probably has nothing to do with you and all to do with him. So don't take it personally. I wish you the best of luck and hope all will be ok.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (26 November 2009):
He does sound like he's pulling away. I think you should talk to him and tell him to be honest about what he wants from this relationship. Tell him you've noticed that he hasn't been in contact as much, and ask him why. Hopefully he'll talk to you.
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