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30-35,
anonymous
writes:This is gonna sound ridiculously teenagerish but I was talking to this 27 year old for the last three months. Our conversations started out friendly and they escalated on his side to flirting to the point where he was inviting me over to come over for the holidays at his place, weddings coming up next year, and moving in with him. He flat out told me he was interested but to not stop my life for him or rather not be exclusive since we are separated by distance and we talked last Monday same flirty vibe when now I haven't heard from him in a week. I get that we're busy and we were just talking but I just want someone's outside opinion is he ghosting me and I should just move on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2015): Thank you guys. I'll probably just move on because if I see you can post on social media, but not text me back, I know where the priorities lie. Plus I know we were just talking so I'm not gonna worry too much about it. Thanks again!
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (7 October 2015):
 He's playing ("ghosting") you... AND, if you fall for it, he's got everything HE wants... and doesn't have to worry, too much, about what is best for YOU!!!
Good luck....
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2015): I wouldn't give up on him after just 1 week of no contact. Give him another week or so (incase he is Ill or has some emergency to deal with) - but if after a couple of weeks of no show - then yes - I would write him off as a player.
I knew a guy who started coming on strong to me on the internet, after only knowing him a few days. When he realised I wasn't really wanting anything serious with him - he moved quickly onto a friend of mine & cut contact altogether!!
It happens - some men let you down gently & some (especially during this internet age) just disappear without a trace - no explanation nothing.
But - give him another few days first before you write him off completely!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2015): Three months is a long time relative to one week, I'd give it another week before assuming he's ghosted you
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (7 October 2015):
 I don't think he is ghosting you, but he isn't looking for anything serious. The thing is, if you two haven't met already it's a bot over the top to invite you to a holiday, wedding etc. I mean he REALLY don't know you from Eve and you don't REALLY know him.
If the distance is something you aren't really wanting to do (LDR) then yes let him know and drop it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2015): I take this is a long-distance relationship. Flirting is just about all you can do with distance between you, and a couple of devices for communication. He's got to live a life; and so do you.
He is cleverly suggesting you open a friend's with benefits plan. Get together now and then for a romantic occasion; and then live your separate lives.
If that's not what you're up for? Yes my dear, move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2015): Three months is a long time relative to one week, I'd give it another week before assuming he's ghosted you
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