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writes:Is he genuinely interested or am I just a rebound?I was friends with this guy in high school but we were mostly just school friends. This past summer (after our first year of college), we really became close friends and would hang out a lot. I also had just gotten out of a 15-month relationship before the summer started, so maybe that's why I was hanging out with a lot more people. I was definitely interested and fond of this guy, but I never really tried to pursue it, because people said that he was talking to this girl who goes to his college. He even went to visit her over the summer (she lives three hours away). It also seemed like he just thought of me as a really good friend as opposed to something more. Not to mention, this girl he was talking to was beyond drop dead gorgeous. Also, even though we live in the same hometown, I go to college seven hours away from him. So when fall semester started, we were still in touch a lot but he was still seeing that other girl (but they were never official) but all of sudden after almost five months of seeing each other, he and her decided to stop. I'm not sure exactly why. But eleven days after they stop seeing each other, he came all the way to my school just to visit me for the weekend and before he left he kissed me. And now we've been communicating pretty much all day everyday, and it is pretty clear that he is interested in me in more than just a friend. I'm just worried...is it too soon for him to be getting involved with someone else? I just don't want to be used as a rebound. Because I do like him right now, but I do have the strength to walk away. I just don't want to get attached to him and then find out I was just a rebound. Reply to this Question
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reader, questionable2009  +, writes (21 November 2011):
Have you ever asked him about this other girl? I guess it will be hard to bring it up in conversation but maybe you can say that back during the summer break you had seen he was quite good friends with the girl, and were just wondering if he still keeps in touch or there was a relationship there?
You never know, he may have ended it because he really fancied you. Or she was just a good friend he confided in while at uni. Or maybe they did try a relationship and he was keen but over time he realised she wasn't the right girl and he realised you were.
Rebound is hard to really know. I remember being with a guy once and 3 weeks after breaking up went into another relationship. People said it was quick, but the first relationship i was in was over really soon into us dating, but I stupidly let it drag on too long. So i really was over it completely and let it go too long,
You will never really know unless you ask him!!
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