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*oftballplaya
writes:hello everyone! wow i havent asked a question on here in a while so here it goes. okay me and my ex split up about 2 weeks ago. my mom took my phone away so i didnt read any messages but hes been trying to talk to me and asking me to please talk to him and shit...so i did and he sent me a pretty long text message saying how he loved me and i meant everything to him and how long hes been trying to get me back -hes 16 im 14. they say it wont work but im not here looking for lectures but ill take any advice. well he said things will be different and how stupid he was for doing things and that he learned the truth. What boy goes through all that to try to get someone back??!. What are your intakes on my problem here? do you think hes forreal this time? should i take him back?? HELP ME!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2007): This is a matter you need to discuss with friends or family not complete stargers. they will understand better and help you make the right choice.
And if that doesn't work, you could always try to pray. Who knows what will happen.
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reader, softballplaya +, writes (8 November 2007):
softballplaya is verified as being by the original poster of the question we've been together like 4 other times so this is like his 4th chance. lol. but hes tryin so hard! i just dont know anymore... and hes the one who ends it..i could understand why he the first time due to personal matters.
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reader, Katrith  +, writes (8 November 2007):
Ok.. so I would love to say he is for real this time, and maybe he is, but you have to think why did you split up in the first place? You are young ... and I know I am sounding like an old woman... but hun, you have your whole life ahead of you!!!! Having a boyfriend isn't the main thing in life... friends... family...these things are important. Listen to your mum! I know you will hate me for saying this but even though you don't want her to be... she will be right about things most of the time! Believe me I have been there and done that!!! If he wants to be part of your life tell him that you want to be friends. If he is happy with your friendship for the time being then great.... take it from there and see how things go. If he says no.. then you have your answer!!!
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reader, Mistify  +, writes (8 November 2007):
 Everybody deserves a second chance, but just be careful. Yes, he went through a lot to try and get you back - but you have to try and remember WHY you broke up in the first place?
I'd vote to give him another chance, but just be vigilant to the warning signs that things might be going wrong again, and then GET OUT.
Good luck
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reader, softballplaya +, writes (8 November 2007):
softballplaya is verified as being by the original poster of the questionevery single day he sent me messages. do u think he is going through all this trouble to break up with me again or do u think he really did learn the truth?-if this clears things up a bit.
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reader, becca78 +, writes (8 November 2007):
You didn't say why you split up, so it's hard to give advice on this. Only you know if there is still something there I think you should talk to each other face to face discuss what went wrong and figure out if you can resolve it there's no point going straight back into the relationship if the same things going to happen again. All I can say is that you're both young and a piece of advice given to me when I was a teenager was "why should the guy who is right for you be on your doorstep?" i.e. he may not be the one for you.
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