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*nthronerd85
writes:Okay so I been working at my job for about 3 two months and its been great so far. I get along really well with all my co-workers, however, I been noticing that one of my coworkers likes to tease me, we bicker for any little thing…is all in good fun, but also he’s been flirting with me, he has a girlfriend, which to my understanding they been in a long time relationship and don’t see each other often. I’m actually dating, and maybe I’m just reading this into much, but, I really don’t want to misinterpret things, Okay so here are some examples if I’m making copies or working on something on the computer he will call me by my name just to distract me and he smiles or he would just ask a simple question just to get my attention, if I return a document or something else he would manage to get closer to me, he steps into my personal space things like that. In addition, on one occasion I was writing a proposal and was on a timeline, I was just really focus on my work and it was time to leave home but I hadn’t finish the proposal so I stayed for like an hour or so at the office. It seem that everyone had left except him and I, I thought he was going to leave as soon as the clock hit 6pm, he then came to my office and asked me what I was doing I told him and since I wanted to finished I said “Well, have a nice weekend, see you Monday” he then told me “would you like me to help you?” with a big smile on his face. I said it was fine didn’t want to keep him from doing what he needed to do, he said that it wasn’t a problem that he said that he was happy to help me and that helping me was better than doing other stuff. I just do know what to do…he does many other things he waits for me went we get out from the office, walks me to my car, we have talked more about our own personal lives; I feel that I have a developed a nice friendship with him and don’t want to ruined that. My gut tells me that he’s just flirting, what can I do?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (11 October 2009):
Well he has a girlfriend anyway, so even if he did want to take it further, he'd have to get rid of her first. It sounds like he's flirting, but don't take it any further. Focus on your job and make sure you socliaize with other guys so you can fidn one who does fancy you and is single.
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reader, Aunt Shelley +, writes (11 October 2009):
There are two sides to this story:
1. yes he is flirting all the things you have described are like flirting. by you two talking about your personal life means yu must be closer than friends.
2. but then maybe he isnt some men are just like that are just too nice and it makes you thing certain things about them.
ADVICE: if i was you i would not read to much into it as you dont want ti to effect your job, But then again if he dont see his girlfriend as much maybe there having relationship problems and he is looking for someone to discuss them with or he might just want sex.
Wait till he says something that is concrete eveidence then decide what you would like to do!
because remember at the end of it you dont want to end up feeling like : You have to leave your work place, You two break up being close, he is with his girlfriend. because then you will have lost alot of things in one instinct just dont do nothing to Silly
Love Aunt shelley
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