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writes:When my boyfriend gets mad at me for something, whether it was something I said or the way I said it (tone wise) He gets really upset with me. He doesnt want me around him, wont talk to me if I try talking to him and goes to the point of talking about breaking it off with me if I dont "learn". I was just wondering if a lot of guys are like this with their girls and what do you do about it. In my opinion he acts really immature and when I ask him "why is he mad" his answer is "because he can be". In my opinion its kinda unfair because he can get mad at me for something and punnish me by ignoring me but if he does somthing wrong and I try to get mad at him, oh that just isnt allowed. So tell me is he controlling? or is this just how guys can be sometimes. I dont want to break up but I just want to know what I should do in situations like this.
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reader, Ash-blush  +, writes (17 August 2008):
Hi, when i saw this post of ur, i almost started to cry,because my boyfriend of almost 4 years are treats me the same. Unfortunatly i have no advise 4 u. All i can say is pray 4 him and try to keep busy and not see him as much.
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reader, itstheoneulove +, writes (17 August 2008):
 just be careful beacsue you cannot change who people are ever. you might think that he will change and things will be different when he grows up or whatever. but in reality he wont chnage. it is not his job to tell you to learn..
honestly i have been there and half the time i bet you feel like you didnt do anythign worng.. or what is the big deal?..am i right? dont ever let anyone control you. you are the only person that has control over what you do. and i agree its not fair that he can be mad at you but you cnat be mad at him. thats not right of him to do. if you have a good relationship with him and are willing to talk to him about how this is making you feel then deff approach him. (not in an angry way just like informing him on how you feel). but if he doesnt try to make this situation better for you after you told him how you feel, he is not the one for you! its not worth being miserable.
my advice is just be happy and enjoy your life while you have the time. you only live once and you cant get these years back. dont waste it on some guy that isnt treating you right. pleaes belive me i know what you are going through. good luck and stay strong.. do what you think is right. :)
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reader, uraqt9697 +, writes (17 August 2008):
I was in a eerily similar situation to yours, and the man I was dating ended up trying to push me down a flight of stairs after a nasty fight...Not to say all guys are going to end up this way if they behave the way you described, but I am involved with a man now who rarely gets mad at me, and will talk to me about things once he "cools off" after a little while.I know to give him a little space, and he knows I need to talk about it...there are men out there who are able to behave properly...maybe his actions are not enough to make you run - - and rightfully so, but always keep in mind that you have done nothing wrong, and demand to be treated like you've done nothing wrong...otherwise you're giving him license to walk all over you.I would find that behavior unacceptable, personally, so its not a question of whether all men are like that or not - - rather, it's whether you will deal with it or not......
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2008): In a situation like this, you need to run for the door, and run fast Sweetie. No, is the answer to your question, not all men (Or the majority of men) act they way your boyfriend is acting. He is a controlling, and I fear eventually will become a abusive person. Just picture your future, imagine having a child with this person, and him treating your child the way he treats you... and yes, he will treat your child like that, no matter what he says. Please know that I will be praying for you Sister Sue... You deserve so much better than what you are getting.
Best Of Luck,
The GabberJack
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