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writes:I am going crazy about my boyfriend... He give me so many mixed messages and I dont know what to do. He tells me he loves me, wants to be with me but then in the next sentence tells me something that contradicts what I know to be a loving relationship. For example I found a text on his phone that was sexual and he said it was just a text and it didnt mean anything. He also has a female roommate whom he has slept with and when she is around he tends to push me away and put me down. She is constantly doing things that show interest, sticking her butt out when he walks by, when he says anything to me she interjects her comments before I can talk and he just lets it go. He also told me last night that he doesnt see us living together, which is something we had discussed. I dont know what to do. She has the upper hand as she lives with him. This morning I told him I needed a couple of days to get my head together on things. I dont know if that is the right thing to do because Im afraid I am pushing him towards her. Why would he say that he wont cheat on me yet act the way that he does with her. Flirting with her, taking his clothes off and leaving his door open when she is at the house. Also, we went to a party on Saturday at my friends house and one of my friends, a single guy was being nice to me etc. After we left he kept telling me how much he likes me and would give me so much in a relationship. HELP.... all these mixed messages are driving me nuts... thoughts? Why would he tell me that he wont cheat on me and that I havent lost him yet and he continue to act the way that he has been with his roommate? What do I do?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (12 June 2013):
 The room-mate doesn't really have an advantage over you per se, he is USING her just as he is USING you.
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reader, Adeboyefa  +, writes (11 June 2013):
 Wake up and read the handwriting on the wall. He has a female roommate and doesn't see you and him living together. For all you know,they may be married,which explains why he pushes you away when she is around.
Stop wasting your time and look for another man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2013): Hello OP You said " She has the upper hand as she lives with him" and that's exactly what the problem is. She has a major advantage over you. She comes first, you come second to him. And that's not right or fair to you.So let me get this straight, and I don't mean to be rude. Your boyfriend is living with another female who he has slept with? And you're putting up with this? This situation is ridiculous and is not fair at all to you. I guarantee he is still sleeping with her. He is playing you. Why does he not see himself living with you? Maybe Because he wants to continue seeing and living with his roommate, they have a thing. You are wasting your time with this man, he is no good. You can do much better. Move on and find someone better. Good luck
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reader, FreshPrincess +, writes (11 June 2013):
He does not see a future with you, and has plainly told you so. The roommate isn't the problem.. The problem is that he doesn't really care for you, so why put up with him?
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