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writes:I have been keeping in contact with a man I used to work with. I got an email from him in April in which he said he would like to see me sometime--and would I mind. I replied that I would like to see him too. Another month or so passed, and he emailed again and said he hoped that we could meet sometime this summer to have lunch. I replied that would be great and gave him my cell number. Now, about 5 or 6 weeks have passed and I have heard nothing. Do you think it's just a case of him not being "that into me" or do you think he is just busy or moves slowly? I am not going to email him again--I'm just going to wait. If he is interested, don't you think he will make the effort to contact me with definite plans? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2009): Thanks AuntyEm! I have been worried about what to do, because I've read that the men usually want to be the one to initiate things. But you are right--it's worth a try. It does seem that he is worried about rejection since he asked if I would mind. I appreciate the advice!
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (30 June 2009):
 Well potentially the answer could be all of the above. He could be shy about initiating the first move, he could be hooked up with someone else and not have time for you, he could be waiting for you to set a date to meet. If it were me and I really wanted to meet this man, I would set a date...at least it would give him the opportunity to say yes or no. If he still avoids you after this then consider the matter closed...x
Aunty Em x
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