| A
female
,
anonymous
writes: I was supposed to go on a second date with this guy Saturday night. We originally met from online and i think i played my cards right from the beginning b/c i know he gets busy with side jobs and i never called him much or texted much..we met at a bar the first time and then he took me to a cafe..we had a good time..we kissed (there was once or twice even before we met he said he would call that night and he didn't and i never asked what happened or even brought it up but he would eventually call the next day or something. Figured why should I ask when we don't even really know each other right now.)at about 9.15 of our second date i get a call from him and he didn't sound too happy and he said he got a bad phone call about this brother in law and he got arrested tonight; got into a fight etc etc.. i was really nice about it and sounded pleasant and said im sorry and he said no he is sorry he feels terrible and i basically said i understand.. and he said he would try to call later which i figured would just not happen if this situation was really going on.I sort of felt like maybe i should show understanding and concern and ask how is brother in law was? to show no hard feelings..a few friends thought to heck with that because he canceled last minute even if it was for a good reason..but i texted him today anyway in the afternoon asking how his family member was and he said it was a hectic night and day..i said i hope everything is fine now and i asked if he wanted to reschedule and hang out sometime this week? and he said yes and asked when do i get home? and i said usually 530 or 6 and i asked what day do you think we should hang out?..Thursday? he said he would call later...but now its 1030 and no phone call..i am hoping this is just the same thing like last time where he just got a little busy and will call or text tomorrow (we arent exclusive so its fine for now)..but i just hope i am not being blown off?Was it too pushy to do this? with online dating i feel like the rules may be a little different because there are numerous options and e-mails going on; its so easy to just move on to the next but i really liked him a lot..so i figured i would put myself out there and show concern and ask about rescheduling. I didn't think it sounded crazy because i figured it would sound nice asking about his family and then asking about hanging out another time. I am a little sad over this.
View related questions:
move on, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2010): There are many players on the internet, from both sexes. From what you say, I think he's a player or maybe he's just a bit lost and looking for something, but doesnt know what. Be careful before you give you heart away.
|
