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anonymous
writes:I have been dating a wonderful military man for a little over a year and we have talked about marriage. The problem is I question his honesty regarding his sexuality. He has told me of a previous encounter around 10 years ago with two gay men. He has also told me during his previous marriage they were swingers and there were a couple of men involved. He admitted to having a profile on a gay dating site but said he removed the profile. I have no doubt that he adores me and he claims he doesnt want anything to do with men and it was just "sexual". While in his email the other day I saw an email from a gay site. When I went to the site I saw his profile as well as a picture of his penis! He hasnt had any activity and Im hoping its because he forgot he was on the site. My god! He had a picture of himself!..really?? Is it possible he isnt into men like he claims? He says hes not bi but enjoys the act of it. Liking the opposite sex isnt something you can just turn off. What do you think Im dealing with here..a bisexual or a homosexual that is in the closet and confused or in denial?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2010): Sounds very much like he's bisexual, which shouldn't matter AT ALL. It depends how much trust you have for this guy, just because he's (probably) bisexual doesn't mean he's going to run off and be sexually deviant with other men and women (shock horror!!). It's the same as you being straight, it doesn't mean you're going to run off with every man that comes your way. I'd be open and honest with him and ask him about the website and tell him clearly that you just want the truth and you want a fully exclusive relationship with him. Good luck :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2010): Good God, woman, does it matter? You have enough evidence that this man has sex with other men, and in my book is sexually deviant.
Why would you want to put your very life at risk by having unprotected sex with this man ever, including marriage because that won't change him into a different person.
Do you really want to have a life full of doubt, suspicion and heartbreak? He ain't worth it, trust me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2010): A bisexual sounds more likely for him. I'm having doubts about my boyfriend too and If I found out he is bisexual, it is over. A bisexual man is one step away from being a gay man.
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