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writes:A year ago, I met an Air force guy with whom I felt incredibly attractive to. We met only for 2 occasions in a business meeting. He flirted with me but that was it, cuz he had to left shortly after that.I decided to email him 2 months after and he remembered me very well.I found out he's wasn't available (since he's with someone else) so I started emailing as a friend since I like him even as a friend.Last week was a year of being in touch. We are friends, so I wrote him a note remembering him that a year ago we met, and that I didn't wanted to be mushy with him, thinking that he didn't really care about the whole thing.He replied that although he was home, he often think of the time he was here and the friends, like me he made and keep contact with, and even send regards to some people he worked with while being deployed.And he said that it was so crazy that he never thought that been here, would become such an interesting chapter in his life.He likes to update me in what he's being up to and we even share jokes and stuff.I'm not making myself any expectations, but do you think he at least is being sincere and perhaps Idk, is it possible that maybe in the future we can be more than friends if he's availabe of course?
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reader, Guru1  +, writes (15 April 2008):
I agree with previous responses. If you want to maintain contact on the basis of a friendship that's fine but if your "waiting in the wings" for him you might be very disappointed. The question is can you genuinely go on with your life allowing other opportunities to emerge naturally or will you be unavailable mentally because you've committed yourself to this idea. Only you know. Don't waste valuable time on a fantasy.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (15 April 2008):
 Collaroy is absolutely correct here; don't live your life waiting for him. Stay friends with him, but don't expect any future with him...
Sometimes life's timing just stinks, and this sounds like one of those times. I'm sorry for that. Keep on being nice and keep yourself busy with friends and activities and hopefully you will meet a nice man who IS available; don't shut yourself off from that possibility waiting for your Air Force friend.
All the best to you!
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reader, Collaroy +, writes (15 April 2008):
 Hi there,
sure why not? But you have to ask yourself this questions? Are you going to wait for something which may never happen?
You cannot put yourself on the waiting list in the expectation that his current relationship doesnt work. That is no way to live. You have to live your own life.
So I would say by all means maintain the friendship, but it is fraught with difficulties and ultimately you are not in it for the friendship alone but with the hope it could turn into something more - you therefore run the risk of putting yourself on the shelf for too long though, and moreover, developing stronger feelings which will make it harder to accept the reality of the situation.
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