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*unaazul
writes:Hello there! I've been seeing this guy by now 4 times in three months and talking on the phone many times. The last time we spent together was last saturday from 9:30am till 11:30pm. He wanted me to go to his place and meet his cats, after he showed me his whole apartment, we went to a festival where we ate and danced and then we went to his friend's house to play poker. At night, we hugged each other and kissed and before saying goodbye, he said he definitely wanted to see me again. Now, the thing is that he said after our second date that he wanted to date me and others at the same time. I was reluctant at first but then accepted. Yesterday I sent him a mail saying that "He's becoming a very important person in my life and that I feel such a joy when I think about him, and that if my feelings were wrong - that I'm sure he would let me know", then I got a mail from him saying that "since he enjoyed his time with me last Saturday, he realized he's interested in dating just me now. That it's still early to know where all this will lead, but he's just enjoying the time spent with me and wants to continue getting to know me." But the other day I saw him on a different dating site where he's registered and active and he hasn't told me anything about it, I just found that out by myself. Is he playing with me? Is he being honest and true about me and the possibility of a relationship between us? What does all this thing that happened last Saturday meant to him? Please, help me with your suggestions about what to do. I'm very inexperienced in these things, so please any comment would be appreciated.(By the way, there's 10 years difference between us). Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2008): Sounds to me that he would like to date you, but he would also might want to date other women too. He's keeping his options open just in case you don't get on or someone he likes better comes alone. You should follow his example and do the same.
I think it's too early for him to committ to an exclusive relationship with you at the moment but he's aware that his feelings for you could develop into something else, so he's intrested in spending time with you.
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reader, Lunaazul +, writes (22 May 2008):
Lunaazul is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo when he says "he's interested in dating just me now", he couldn't really mean it? Why does he want to see me if he's gonna waste his time with someone he's not that into? or he just wants to spend time with me because somehow he realized I like him? Should I upfront wiht him and ask himwhat is it what he really wants? Btw, Thanks for your suggestions.
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reader, sammylove  +, writes (21 May 2008):
Well if he's on another dating site confront him about it.
He's active so he I'm sorry to say isn't very interested yet.
The best you can do is talk to him and ask where it is going. Also get out there yourself and start dating again unless it is actually going somewhere.
Hope this helps and good luck =].
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