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writes:I been seeing this guy friend of mine for 3months and we have sex a lot but hes been a jerk lately towards me because i said i like him and he said hes not interested in a relationship right now I don't get it. Would you have sex with someone you wouldn't like. Or is he the one that's afraid of a relationship Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (20 August 2010):
 Sorry hun, but hes only into you because of the sex. He will never amount to anything else and probably views you as a friend with benefits.
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reader, xanthic +, writes (20 August 2010):
 He's not afraid of a relationship, he just doesn't want one. As things are right now, he's getting all the benefits of a relationship from you without the responsibility of being in one. You made it easy for him by not asking for more, and now that you want things to become more serious, it's too complicated for him to handle. It's not that he's afraid, he's just not willing to put in more effort now that sex with you includes a label.
It's time to move on, find someone else and if you have any intention of being with that person long-term, don't start out as friends with benefits.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2010): A lot of guys and gals like sex, but don't like commitment and will do a lot to get one without the other, and vice versa as well (that is don't like sex that much but want commitment).
The questions for you are, "What do YOU want?" and "Is this the relationship that will get YOU what you want?" You already have a relationship with him and him with you as well.
But, are both parties getting their needs and wants met?
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reader, johannabanana +, writes (20 August 2010):
 Guys can have detached sex. Meaning they don't have to like you even a little to have sex with you. All he wants is a booty call. He is using you for sex and doesn't even care about you if your satisfied with just sex then that works, but know that he will never want anything to develop into a relationship. If you want a solid relationship then don't have sex. Sex only complicates things and guys who will wait for you and not pressure you are the ones that stick around the longest. Also relationships that don't revolve around sex are the best ones there are.
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