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writes:My boyfriend broke up with me about a month ago. He still calls me and when I see him he acts like a high school kid and has to be near me. He told me the reason was that he broke up with me is that he didn't develope the feelings he thought he should but everytime we talk he brings it up and I am beginning to wonder if it's me he's trying to convince he doesn't love me or himself. I am not the only one who thinks he is full of crap. How do I handle this? Do I call him out on it or do I let him realize it himself?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2010): Wow...it only keeps getting more interesting. The other night we talked for 1 1/2 hours. We talked about of a lot of things really. He told me the usual why he broke up with me but I don't believe him anymore. At one point of the conversation he told me he would never tell me about his dating habits then he proceeds to do just that and hints around that he isn't dating anyone else. Then he made a comment about something and I told him that I was going to over to him and pop him one for that and he told me that he thought I should seduce him instead. Whoa! I told a friend of mine that and she seems to think that it wasn't a sexual seduction he had in mind but for me to prove to him that we can be in a committed relationship and I am worth it and to remind him why he should love me. Pretty messed up I think.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2010): I don't agree with johannabanana at all. Why be friends with this guy?I mean what's the difference between this situation and those other situations where people write about how their exes are giving mixed signals after the break up and it seems there's no relationship in sight. Don't we tell these people to move on for a number of good reasons?If you still like him, I'd cut him loose. If you don't like him that way and truly (TRULY) want to be friends with him, then by all means be there for him. As for "calling him out," it seems like you are still upset by the breakup and may be angry with him right now because of this behavior? Sorry if I'm assuming incorrectly, but this is why you can't be his friend right now if this is true. Don't be confrontational but be up front and honest with him if it's bothering you. If you are on the attack, I don't think that conversation will end up accomplishing anything, and in fact you'll both feel worse. Good for you for being aware, and good luck!
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reader, johannabanana +, writes (20 August 2010):
 just be his friend and be there for him when he needs you. Boyfriends come and go but friends can be forever. If things are meant to be between the two of you then they will eventually develop naturally.
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