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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have a (long) question about my ex. My best friend says he emotionally and almost physically abused me and needs help or he may go on to physically as well as emotionally abuse other girls. But my friend is really overprotective of me and has had bad experiences with emotional abuse herself. I don't know if that makes her more reliable or less. Anyway, I was with my boyfriend, first ever, for about a year. He has REALLY strict conservative Christian parents and we kept our relationship quiet because of that. Neithr of us had been in a relationship before and we ended up going kind of fast. He would do things like slip his hand up my shirt and I wouldn't know how to react. When I told him not to try to feel my vagina, he kept asking why not. He always wanted me to wear certain clothes, ones that would make it easier for him to see and feel my body, and when he called me if I didn't answer sometimes he would just see how many times he could call me before I answered? And he told me it would be morally wrong of me to cut my hair when I told him I wanted to give it to Locks of Love. He didn't get along with any of my friends so i was pretty much just hanging out with him while we were togethe. I tried twice to break up with him and both times he cried so much that I stayed, but he loved to push my buttons until I got so mad I wanted to hang up on him or hit him. One night we were out in a parking lot and he started tugging down the collar of my shirt to look down it. I pushed agaisnt his hands but didn't say anything, I was scared. After I finally broke upwith him he continued to call me and upset me until i cried until my dad threatened to get a restraining order. His parents never answered my dad's phone calls about it, and I know that they'd never put him in therapy or believe he needs help or anything like my friend says, so even if my ex is abusive i don't know what to do about it?
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reader, girl from bristol  +, writes (31 January 2010):
i think he liked pushing our buttons to get you mad but i dont think he is abusive or anything like that he put his hand places cause he fancied you thats all thats not physical abuse if he forced you in any way then that is different is he just upset at losing you thats why he was in tears you are best of out of his life though if he is upsetting you leave it to his parent to do what they want its not your worry now
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