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writes:Can anyone please help me decide if this man I am quite friendly with at the moment is a womaniser and not just being friendly.I look after this man's son at the nursery I work at. He started offering to give me a lift home a few months ago (he picks his son up at the same time as I finish work). He told me very early on that he had children from a previous relationship and I already knew that he is currently married. I honestly thought he was just being friendly. He asks how my days been, has asked about my interests (and remembers what I've said a week later) and has never said anything inappropriate/of a sexual nature (other than the ONE time he told me I always look perfect back when he first started offering to take me home but he hasn't done it again since then and that was a few months ago). I also know quite a bit about him and he tells me about the things he has been doing during the day. Recently my colleague has said she thinks I like him as more than a friend, which is not true as I am not stupid enough to get physically involved with a married man, plus there's the fact he's old enough to be my dad! And I don't even mention him when he is not around...He sometimes comes back up to get me from work to take me home if I finish a little later than the time he picks his son up (he has to pick his other child up from another nursery after picking the son up and my house is on the way). He always asks if I would like a lift home in front of my colleagues so it's not like he's hiding anything and his wife knows he does it too. Tonight my colleague told me he is a womaniser but many people have told me he is really nice. I thought womanisers were men who tried to get women into bed then dumping them straight after? If he is a womaniser, is he trying it on with me and I'm just not seeing it? If my colleague had not said he is a womaniser, I would not have suspected anything as I am on good terms with him and his wife and he has even told me where he lives (I know for definite it is the correct address).Can anyone help me work this one out? Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2010): Basically I think he is being very friendly. I wouldn't try to read anything more into it than that. The fact you you feel a bit confused is because he hasn't given you any signs that ring alarm bells. No doubt he thinks you are a lovely girl and there's nothing wrong with that. He is natural and upfront about his life. My guess there is nothing more to it. So just carry on being casual, friendly etc. I suspect you are slightly attracted to him or is it the attention - anyway, put it to the back of your mind. It would be a disaster if things developed and it would have no future beyond heartache for you. Best keep everything as it is now - light, friendly, no more than that.
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reader, Tbosse  +, writes (14 December 2010):
 Your collegue is jelouse of you being friends with this guy. You mention that hes never flirted with you, just ignore your collegue and 'enjoy the lifts whìle they last'..., but beware of emotional atachment!
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reader, comeonjesusthishurtstoomuch  +, writes (14 December 2010):
 if he were your husband would you want him doing this for another woman
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